@Tinachris - Hope you are feeling much better today lovely, I know you had a lot to think about yesterday. I can understand you not being quite ready for donor eggs just yet at 37, I am not far behind you as I turn 36 this year but have a feeling that conversation will come up soon for us too if we dont get success. Hoping you get good news tomorrow at your scan come on little embies you can do it!
@Maxwellsmum - Hoping the kitchen sink Wazza has added does the trick for you hun, great news on your donors follicles. Hope you feel much better today too x
@Keepontryin13 - Sorry to hear you had a hard time at yesterdays appointment too hun. Sounds like as a couple you have dealt with a lot on this ttc journey. I think the world needs educating on the IVF front everyone seems to think its the answer and everyone gets pregnant first attempt. I was speaking to my SIL last week (she thinks we conceived DD through IVF even though she was our ovulation induction baby, dont think she realised there was much in between natural conception and IVF), she was refering to a friend of hers who will be doing IVF, "You know how expensive it can be, it will cost her over 3 Grand" If only that was the case - $40 grand plus (I lost count to be honest) later and still no success. Hope DH is with you now, will be thinking of you tomorrow at EPU hun hope all goes well.
@MamaKes - Great news that Thursday went well with your donor hun, sounds like a good match for your family. Great news on your scan front too hope things continue so well x
@Gagingi - I love the way Warren strives to have partners involved at transfer, we had DD with us first time and he said if he had known he would have asked someone to take her he said it was against hospital protocol but with stronger words he said "blow that". Nice way for you to celebrate being PUPO after going for a nice meal x
@Chyna How are you going Luv?? When 's your scan with Wazza????
and prayers being sent for all the other Lovelies here Cycling or in their 2WTortures etc. Hoping for a tsunami of BFFP's around here in the next couple of months!!!!
I'm good Luv. Getting there slowly but surely😊 I'll be keeping my eye out for your update!!!😊
Three year ago when I was 37 after our 6th unsuccessful attempt with OE (14 eggs at pick up, none to Tx) despite being in wazzas kitchen sink protocol, we too were faced with hearing the same things from Wazza.
Cheap clinic or DE. It was hard to hear and contemplate.
However after a night of pizza, wine and contemplation I realised that what I wanted most was to see my husband become a father. (I had actually resigned myself prior that motherhood was probably not something I would get because of my endo dx)
For me it didn't matter how that happened. I also knew if we adopted we would have absolutely no control over things like genetics/appearance etc but would love that child just the same regardless. Once that 'lightbulb' went in my head I realised overseas DE wasn't such an out there consideration.
(Overseas was our preference after looking at all the options as I do not have any female relatives or friends that could help)
Warren was also a great reassurance that he would assist wherever he could. And he did that and more.
Once the decision was made it pretty much snowballed and everything happened very quickly.
We were cycling again within three months. Unfortunately that first cycle didn't give us our longed for BFP but we were reminded by Wazza that our issues were big but with the right donor these could be overcome.
We then took stock and did a repeat cycle with a new donor 9 months later. This cycle turned out to be 'the one'. So much so that we are now sitting here with 6 month old twins who are our world.
I don't want to lie and say it wasn't still was a hard slog. There were times where we wondered if we were crazy. Times where I grieved the loss of my using eggs but once those babies were here, they were and are 100% ours.
It's also ironic that I regularly get told how much one or both of the babies are like me or one of my family. So clearly epigenetics is a real thing.
I'm telling you this not to convince you to go down the DE route, only you can decide if you are ready for that. But I think it's important to know what the options are and to give you hope in those options.
Sending big hugs to you today and wishing you a great outcome for your scan today. I truly do hope you get to use your own eggs but know the world won't end if you don't xx
Thanks Blinky for your insight it means a lot to hear from someone who's been there (or here, i guess) and Heyside for your kind words.
I now have 4 follicles this morning. Trigger tonight. EPU Wednesday.
We walked into this cycle giving it all we had and we have decided to continue and see what happens after egg collection.
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