@gorgeousgeorge it is a wild ride...when is your appointment with Charlotte? If it is coming up soon, I personally would still make the appointment, you don't need to rush into DE...and trust me I'm all for it...I have one on board right now hoping it has dug its way to China (5 more sleeps ). But what is the cost of one more apt in the whole scheme of things.
You will get an honest unequivocal answer I believe from Charlotte, just as you would with Warren.
I know I had to be SURE my eggs weren't going to cut the mustard before I could make the leap and even after Warren told me to stop wasting my money, we did still one more OE cycle with him as it was our first.
I too regret not going to Warren and wasting my time, money and emotions with my previous 2 FS...I believe (and my DP) believe that they are thieving money hungry a'holes!
But apart from the cost (yes selling your other organs to pay to do it in Australia should be an option - or at least do an organ exchange program), I am, have and will advocate for the Known Egg Donor program. It gives other options that the OS donor programs don't offer.
Ask lots of people of their experiences...the only stupid question is the one you don't ask!
I made my decisions from joining other forums...reading & talking with other ladies...meeting for coffee with some. I've meant the nicest and dearest people that will ALWAYS mean the world to me from our shared experiences both OE IVF and with KED...and we hope that our little donor babies are playing together and have that magic in common
I would actually ask my DP if he'd like the cup written on or not...that way it could be like he was having anonymous sex we'd mix it up a little for him
@Chyna thank you for your well wishes. DH was at work, but he was contactable.
I'm wondering about how you chose your obstetrician? We've never needed one before. Given my age this will be a high-risk pregnancy. I'd wanted to ask Wazza, but he'll still be on leave at the first scan. When did he refer you on? Based on FET date EDD will be late December, so I'm wondering who will be available... We want somebody who will support treatment Wazza has recommended with medications and intralipids etc. We'd assumed we'd go with the Mater, but I've been hearing good things about Greenslopes Private. We'd have loved our FS#1 as we think he should be sticking with OB/Gyn rather than IVF, but I don't think he and Wazza have compatible approaches. Did you guys have a list, or did Wazza provide options?
@gorgeousgeorge looks like you've been doing a lot of thinking! I think you should keep your appointment with Charlotte and see what she says. She'll be honest with you. I think you should look at the donor egg program warren is helping run that @Gen72 is referring to. To me it sounds amazing and u get to keep all your embryos and sperm here. Plus your children will know who their donor is if that is important to u. Just keep asking lots of questions and you'll find the right answer for u and hubby xx
Last edited by Chyna; 28-04-2016 at 08:07.
@Gagingi Congratulations on your BFP fantastic news! @gorgeousgeorge its a difficult decision when you get to this point. We visited the donor side of things last year and DH was not really on board and still isn't. Me on the other hand am totally up for anything if it means we can have a family. Your DH sounds amazing and yeap totally agree we are blessed x. DH and I spent alot of wasted time and money with our previous FS and are kicking ourselves we didn't make the move sooner...But whats done is done..when we moved to Charlotte we told her from the start not to beat around the bush with us and not to sugar coat anything and she was very to the point but caring as well.
AFM went for blood test this morning. Technically not due for BT until Saturday but with delays etc FN was happy for me to go this morning but told me there still is a chance the pregnal is in my system so may have to go for repeat blood tests. The last two nights I haven't been feeling very hopeful to be honest. I have been having really bad AF cramps (had that with my pregnancy last year as well) these ones are more intense though. I'm on constant knicker watch! I had my last pregnal 1500 Saturday morning. Thinking if I did test tonight (if i make it through the day without AF showing up) if I was pregnant the line would be quite dark? And if I wasn't the line may be quite light or non existent?
@mrsparso - The nurses are very good I am sure if you phone them they will get it sorted for you. I have been emailing them so as to feel I am not always on the phone harassing 5hem lol!
@gorgeousgeorge - Sounds like you have a lot to think about hun. I agree with comments on here, I would go and see what Charlotte says before you make a solid plan, I hear she is very upfront just like Warren and will tell you exactly as it is. I definitely understand what you mean about whether you can take ivf any more financially and psychologically, DH and I have had lots of conversations about this there is only so long you can keep this up, I want to be able to say I tried everything though if we fail. As for feeling guiltt for posting in this thread, there are lots of us who post in several threads and there are so many ladies on bubhub willing to help its good to move around and find out all the information we need to make an informed decision. Lots of girls in here can help inform you about the known donor program and if thats not for you then so be it! We are all here to support each other hun dont feel guilty about that. Big hugs x
@Keepontryin13 - Good luck with bloods hun, pregnacy unfortunately definitely comes with af l like cramps so dont count yourself out just yet. If you do decide to test then good luck and keep us updated x
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