Ask me again tomorrow.
Ask me again tomorrow.
Generally, yes. I find it far more fulfilling that a career, I know that gets gasps and gaping mouths lol but that's me.
Having said that, some days I want to get in the car and screech away. DS2 is a beautiful, loving little boy but he is intensely needy and demanding. Like off the charts high maintenance. I often feel 'touched' out and wanting my own space.
I also agree with the comments about the fact society and the media depict motherhood to be this eternally fulfilling, wonderful thing every moment of every day. It breeds frustration, feelings of guilt and self doubt and competitiveness between mums.
All I can say is ask yourself do/did you love work every single moment of the day? Did you have days you'd rather stab yourself in the eye with a fork than be at work? Does/Did that mean you hate/d working?
Last night I was so done. So completely empty.
I just couldn't deal with the squabbling and fighting and screaming and crying effectively so turned into the mum that I hate being.
Today I feel better. I had a decent sleep and just have had more patience.
Mothering is the hardest thing I have done but despite it all I do love it. Not everyday but enough of the time.
I know it will never be easy but it would be nice to still enjoy them and life.
@TaylasWorld I just wanted to offer you a big big hug, sounds like you're
doing it tough so vent away in here as much as you need.
Honestly yes. I enjoy it much more than I ever imagined I would.
That's not to say sometimes I don't want to run forest run and never return!
I do have two children who are incredibly good sleepers, and are generally well behaved so that makes it easier!
My partner is a partner in every sense of the word, we are a team, do everything 50/50, he makes sure. I get time out regularly (as I do him), plus my inlaws are awesome and babysit when we need it. My sister also babysits when I ask and my dad has been known to drive the two hours to our house just so he can hang for the weekend with us. Generally he sends us out for a night alone.
I'm sure I wouldn't enjoy being a mother nearly as much if all my support systems weren't firmly in place.
@Nemmi1987 you said you don't know how my kids don't destroy the house while i get big jobs done. Usually it's because i plan carefully to keep them involved in what i am doing or have an activity set up that i know will keep them going while i get things done. Eg: when i have to do a lot of weeding ipull weeds and they are my "runners" taking the pulled weeds to put on piles. I keep it interesting by making it a guessing game which pile I'll send them to. They think it's hilarious and i can weed for two hours with kids occupied. Takes a lot of energy to keep the fun in it but it's worth it. I dunno, that sort of thing is our whole day. If i cook, half the time they cook with me (not always!) And we all pack up before bedtime so the house is neat when they go to bed and I'm not having to do it after. Being on my own and not having a partner to give me a break i have to make me own breaks and for me it's evenings. So i try my best to have all jobs done by kids' bedtimes. As for cafes...have always done it, since babies. I take a snack for them and they love sitting up with me. When they start to get bored i have colouring books and crayons or something similar so i can finish a coffee in peace and genuinely enjoy the time.
When I hung washing I'd throw pegs through the lawn and he'd find them lol
My second born? He managed to disappear in the time it took me to hang one towel, catty cornered under the house and out the front.
He was climbing the kitchen table before he walked so I knew I was in for trouble
I'm single, have been on my own since before my Mr 2.5 existed,
He wouldve been maybe 15 mo this when his version of entertainment was to climb from the seat to the basket in the trolley, now a trolley seat does not do, he rides on the front only lol
Totally agree that temperament and personality traits of the kiddies impacts on how 'easy' or 'hard' it is.
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