+ Reply to Thread
Page 5 of 7 FirstFirst ... 34567 LastLast
Results 41 to 50 of 61
  1. #41
    Join Date
    Dec 2015
    Posts
    250
    Thanks
    30
    Thanked
    205
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by zoz View Post
    Hold on I think it's a bit different than a kid being beaten or abused on the street, blowing it out of proportion. Even in that situation I likely wouldn't intervene. I can understand someone in authority reporting but just some random I reckon leave it to the authorities...
    Sure. Just walk past a kid getting bashed, because its none of your business. No worries. Leave it for someone else to worry about.

    Coz you know "they're not dead yet".

  2. The Following 7 Users Say Thank You to alliecat89 For This Useful Post:

    amyd  (30-01-2016),Angels4me  (29-01-2016),Frankenmum  (29-01-2016),gingermillie  (29-01-2016),Nemmi1987  (29-01-2016),sarahjane914  (30-01-2016),VicPark  (29-01-2016)

  3. #42
    Join Date
    Dec 2015
    Posts
    250
    Thanks
    30
    Thanked
    205
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by zoz View Post
    I've been on the recieving end. It wasn't their business, it didn't involve my children though so that's different but I didn't warrant that caused crap that was totally unnecessary. So I can't help but dislike these situations.

    People are often asking for hand outs from the local bss.
    I suspected you had a history based on your posts.

    But you've missed the point!!! The father HASN'T been asking for handouts or for help.

    Someone else spotted him going through the bin and posted about it, not the actual parent!

    Look you can live your life however you want. I don't care what you do or don't do unless it affects people that are too young and vulnerable to protect themselves from the consequences of their parent's choices.

    That is the difference.

  4. The Following User Says Thank You to alliecat89 For This Useful Post:

    Nemmi1987  (29-01-2016)

  5. #43
    Join Date
    Jun 2005
    Location
    At the beach
    Posts
    10,495
    Thanks
    1,430
    Thanked
    9,003
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 17/10/14100 Posts in a week

    Default Am I in the wrong??? Blocked from our BSS for being concerned for a child!

    Things like this always remind me of that quote "the only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing" or something like that (been a long time since I got that on a philosophy exam.

    It makes me very sad people still turn away.
    Last edited by Sonja; 29-01-2016 at 20:46.

  6. The Following 15 Users Say Thank You to Sonja For This Useful Post:

    alliecat89  (29-01-2016),amyd  (30-01-2016),Frankenmum  (29-01-2016),gingermillie  (29-01-2016),HearMeRoar  (30-01-2016),HippyGirl85  (02-02-2016),HollyGolightly81  (29-01-2016),LaDiDah  (29-01-2016),Lincolns mummy  (29-01-2016),LoveLivesHere  (29-01-2016),misskittyfantastico  (29-01-2016),mumma2noah  (30-01-2016),smallpotatoes  (30-01-2016),SuperGranny  (01-02-2016),VicPark  (29-01-2016)

  7. #44
    Join Date
    Mar 2015
    Posts
    3,937
    Thanks
    690
    Thanked
    2,292
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    OP, in response to you I think you did nothing wrong. If you cannot find out details of the person, maybe report what you saw on the page and they can investigate that way.

    I will begin this by saying that I think seeing anyone or anything (I'm also thinking animals) being mistreated/abused/neglected needs reporting or help.

    I do think some people may have had a bad experience on the receiving end and are people that are very private and may have felt exposed/felt their reputations were tarnished by someone reporting on a situation. It does not make ignoring seeing abuse/neglect ok (in my opinion) but it may explain why someone may feel the way they do. Just putting that possibility out there.

  8. The Following User Says Thank You to twinklify For This Useful Post:

    misskittyfantastico  (29-01-2016)

  9. #45
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    3,240
    Thanks
    2,501
    Thanked
    1,245
    Reviews
    10
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by zoz View Post
    But it's not your business, simple as!
    "First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—
    Because I was not a Socialist.

    Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out—
    Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

    Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—
    Because I was not a Jew.

    Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me."

    ALWAYS speak up for those that have no voice.

  10. The Following 12 Users Say Thank You to LaDiDah For This Useful Post:

    alliecat89  (29-01-2016),Californication  (29-01-2016),Frankenmum  (29-01-2016),HearMeRoar  (30-01-2016),HollyGolightly81  (29-01-2016),Lincolns mummy  (29-01-2016),MsViking  (02-02-2016),Nemmi1987  (29-01-2016),smallpotatoes  (30-01-2016),SuperGranny  (01-02-2016),TheGooch  (29-01-2016),wobblermummy  (29-01-2016)

  11. #46
    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    Posts
    2,450
    Thanks
    732
    Thanked
    555
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    As a mandatory reporter I find it very hard to just not worry about these cases. Just today I found out a mother of baby boy who our team was trying to support is now in ICU because her partner beat her up so badly. This is what happens if you just walk away. I have many examples. .my friend was basically told to walk away from concerns for 2 children who 6 months later came back positive for two - not one but two STIs- they were 7 and 9. So yeah - i find it hard to walk away.

  12. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to CleverClogs For This Useful Post:

    MsViking  (02-02-2016),Nemmi1987  (29-01-2016),SuperGranny  (01-02-2016)

  13. #47
    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    Posts
    2,450
    Thanks
    732
    Thanked
    555
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by zoz View Post
    I'm not a troll at all. My opinion is different from the majority. Yes I am serious.

    I've been on the recieving end. It wasn't their business, it didn't involve my children though so that's different but I didn't warrant that caused crap that was totally unnecessary. So I can't help but dislike these situations.

    People are often asking for hand outs from the local bss.

    Hold on I think it's a bit different than a kid being beaten or abused on the street, blowing it out of proportion. Even in that situation I likely wouldn't intervene. I can understand someone in authority reporting but just some random I reckon leave it to the authorities...
    You do no it is illegal in mosts ( if not all) states to not report suspected sexual or physical abuse and neglect of a child ? Everyone is bound by this. Child protection go in , assess and if warranted arrange support services or removal of the child ( last option ). Since mandatory reporting came in they've been swamped hence always reading about cases that were not handled properly and slipped through. Usually after the death of the child. I had an issue with someone posting on a site 150 people going I can give you some clothes or books or toys and no-one saying what about the long term welfare of this child? I actually found it terrible no-one did this. So, I tried and this is the result. Sorry for the rant, I just feel so frustrated.

  14. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to CleverClogs For This Useful Post:

    amyd  (30-01-2016),Happymum2  (29-01-2016),Nemmi1987  (29-01-2016),VicPark  (29-01-2016)

  15. #48
    Join Date
    Feb 2014
    Posts
    3,196
    Thanks
    312
    Thanked
    960
    Reviews
    13
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I didn't quote in case you wanted to delete later.
    It's brave people like you who see the red flags and help the innocent. You shouldn't feel bad or have to justify.
    It must be very upsetting and frustrating position you're in and even if you save one child it's worthwhile

  16. The Following User Says Thank You to maternidade For This Useful Post:

    SuperGranny  (01-02-2016)

  17. #49
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Posts
    934
    Thanks
    303
    Thanked
    209
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by CleverClogs View Post
    You do no it is illegal in mosts ( if not all) states to not report suspected sexual or physical abuse and neglect of a child ? Everyone is bound by this. Child protection go in , assess and if warranted arrange support services or removal of the child ( last option ). Since mandatory reporting came in they've been swamped hence always reading about cases that were not handled properly and slipped through. Usually after the death of the child. I had an issue with someone posting on a site 150 people going I can give you some clothes or books or toys and no-one saying what about the long term welfare of this child? I actually found it terrible no-one did this. So, I tried and this is the result. Sorry for the rant, I just feel so frustrated.
    I feel frustrated too. I feel it's overstepping boundaries. Let authorities deal with it! When does it become too much like a busy body...? What if someone is already caseworking for them not that it'd make much difference but still let them deal with it it's their job.

    It's illegal? So who is going to cone up to me and say oh very bad of you for not doing x or y. That's a bit full on.

    Anyway no one agrees with me, I'll just get flamed for whatever I say. It seems on these forums you have to have one opinion and if it isn't the right one you're gone.

    I'll just join in with the light hearted banter in future for fear of being flamed for having a difference in opinion. Just another example of society wanting everyone to be clones and follow along with everything they do.

  18. #50
    Join Date
    Dec 2015
    Posts
    250
    Thanks
    30
    Thanked
    205
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by zoz View Post
    I feel frustrated too. I feel it's overstepping boundaries. Let authorities deal with it! When does it become too much like a busy body...? What if someone is already caseworking for them not that it'd make much difference but still let them deal with it it's their job.
    But how can the authorities "deal with it" if they don't know it's happening?

    How do you think they find out about things that are happening so that they can deal with it?

    Thats exactly what reporting is - you're telling the authorities "hey I saw this, and I have concerns for the child for these reasons". And the authorities go investigate it and go from there. You don't do anything further, you let them deal with it.

    But it needs to be reported, so that the authorities know about it, so that they can deal with it.
    Last edited by alliecat89; 30-01-2016 at 07:36.

  19. The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to alliecat89 For This Useful Post:

    amyd  (30-01-2016),Californication  (30-01-2016),HearMeRoar  (30-01-2016),HollyGolightly81  (30-01-2016),MsViking  (02-02-2016),Nemmi1987  (30-01-2016)


 

Similar Threads

  1. What causes blocked tubes?
    By dandelion in forum IVF
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 20-12-2015, 19:58
  2. Severe blocked milk duct help!
    By gingermillie in forum Breastfeeding Support
    Replies: 26
    Last Post: 02-12-2015, 21:37
  3. Should I be concerned?
    By Frankenmum in forum General Chat
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 27-06-2015, 07:54

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
WaterWipes
Give your babies bottom a gift this Xmas! They are the only wipe made using just water and a drop of grapefruit seed extract and may help avoid nappy rash. Check out the great reviews on bubhub and see our website for more info and availability.
sales & new stuffsee all
Pea Pods
Buy 2 Award Winning Pea Pods Reusable One Size Nappies for only $38 (in your choice of colours) and receive a FREE roll of Bamboo Liners. Don't miss out, we don't usually have discounts on the nappies, so grab this special offer!
Special Offer! Save $12
featured supporter
Einsteinz Music
Fun & interactive music classes!
Classes are taught by professional musicians! Children are taught the fundamentals of music: beat, pitch, rhythm and tempo through hands-on experience. Click for more details!!!
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!