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    Hi I'm new to this site. I need to speak to someone, my wife want to fall pregnant again and I don't know if its the best idea.

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    tell us a bit more about yourself

    how old are you? do you want to have a child? why? why not?
    are you financially secure enough to have a baby?

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    I'm sure you well get some advice of some of the lovely people on here but I think it's important to know that we are just strangers & can't tell you "yes, you should have another or no, you shouldn't" you and your wife need to sit down & really discuss it. I know that this can cause tension in relationships so maybe take the advice you are given off here & write a pro's & con's list. That way you have something to work of when you do sit down with your wife.
    Can I ask how many children you already have? And what are your concerns about having another baby.
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    I don't mean any offence, but that's really something no one else can tell you... You should bring it up to your wife and talk about it with her.. Discuss your worries about having (more?) children in a calm normal way.. Try not to make too much of an issue about it or make it a negative thing.. She won't forget it if you do..
    But good luck... I hope it all works out..

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    Last edited by Jayz; 28-01-2016 at 19:16.

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    I don't think not seeing grandparents is a good reason to not have children. My grandparents lived overseas and I barley knew them, a bit sad but it's quite common.

    Do you get along with your mother? Does it hurt you that your wife and mother don't get along?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jayz View Post
    Ok I'm 42 and the wife is 39, we have a beautiful 2 year old girl (C) financially we are ok. We are both immigrants. So we went back home over Christmas for 4 weeks. My wife doesn't get along with my mother, so we basically spend 4 weeks with the inlaws. My mother probably saw our daughter 10 hours during the 4 weeks, the rest of the time was spend with and at the inlaws house. We did stay in a separate house during the 4 weeks.
    We were back home when C was about 4 months old and now that she is 2 years old.
    So my wife want to get pregnant again, is it fair on me to not let my my mother know my daughter.
    I am lost is about your wife and you deciding to add to your family
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    Your relationship with your mother and relationship between your wife and your mother.

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    Two separate issues. Sounds like you need counselling. But if she's 39 you don't have any time to waste if you do decide for a second.

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    Light hearted response: tell her you will agree to a second baby only if your mum can come and stay with you for a month when it's born.

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    Whatever you do you need to sort your relationship with your wife out before you have another kid.


 

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