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    Quote Originally Posted by Bongley View Post
    @Summer I was good with all that until the last line! It does sound like a horrendous amount of pressure on you both. Just terrible timing for all these things to be happening at once but you aren't in the position of being able to wait
    Going back to your last line, do you think your relationship is on the rocks??
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    Summer, it sounds really stressful. I hope things settle soon for you both. yeah it's prob best to get things organized and tell him the plan so he knows it's all under control and what parts & when he needs to do his bits. so it's one less thing he needs to worry about
    Quote Originally Posted by Tahli View Post
    @Summer Jeez talk about being under pressure hun. @winsor's advice sounds really sound to me. Gosh I wish we could share a glass of wine with you. I thought things must have become challenging for you as you'd gone really quiet. Do you have another counseling session booked? Does he have an avenue for getting his stress out?
    And btw, if you separate, there's DS, but of course that won't fix any heartbreak. Huuge hugs.
    I don't want to think that we could be on the rocks, but some of DH's behaviour is not OK and the pressure he's under and his reactions are badly affecting our relationship. So all will be OK if he can find ways to manage his emotions better, but if he's not willing to do some work on himself (more counseling, different business strategies etc) then the relationship is going to keep deteriorating until it implodes. There's only so much one person can do if the other person isn't willing to put in. To date he hasn't had a history of this behaviour, so hopefully it's just been overwhelm, pressure and grief and he'll find a way out of it and we can move forward. At the moment I'm just trying to put my own personal feelings aside and be supportive for him and see where we get to. I am seeing my counselor on Friday, so once I see her I'll approach DH about having another session together next week.

    And I do want to do one or two more cycles just to put my mind at rest that I did do everything possible with my OE. So I think rather than any big discussions, I'll just present the facts to DH without a lot of emotion and just say this is what I want to do, this is the time frame, these are the costs and then it ends because I'll be 45, but I want that opportunity. I can't see him saying no to that, especially as I normally don't produce any more than one egg so it doesn't even get to EPU so our chances of getting two or three are slim.

    If we did split I'm not sure whether I'd go the DE/DS single mother path, I guess I could only tell that once I was in that situation and had my life settled again. But I could see myself living out the song "All I want to do is make love to you" - remember that cheesy one where she had a one night stand with a hot guy purposely to fall pregnant?? LOL
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gagingi View Post
    Wazza has me taking Menopur, alternating with Gonal-F and I've done much better on that than pure Gonal-F, in terms of quality. My GP was quite stunned when I got diagnosed with PCOS at 40 as I don't have a lot of symptoms, but I do have a few chin hairs I'm forever plucking and I'd say that is from high testosterone...

    When are your PGD results due? How are you traveling?
    @Gagingi - my first cycle was pure Gonal f which produced 19 eggs, 17 mature but only 7 fertilised as the rest ' disintegrated' with the ICSI. Given that I've not been keen to do Gonal f again which is why my FS switched me to menopur which I suppose at least has increased my fertilisation rate with the best rate being at 300 does rather than the 225 I was on previously. Still I only got 3 blasts from 12 fertilised and only two of those could be biopsied. If I decide to do another cycle I intend to ask about the alternating Gonal f and menopur option or even Gonal f plus luveris which means you can control the lh dose component.

    PGD results are due 12 Feb. I decided not to run around having scans and blood tests to prep for a transfer as I have done this twice which I find just adds false hope and adds to the devastation of getting an abnormal result. I will just wait on the results and if both are abnormal ( again) I will get some information on my two day 6 frozen ones and an opinion from my FS as to whether I should transfer one of them or do one more cycle before I turn 43 in June.

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    @Summer I remember the hot guy out of the video clip! Where's he when a single mumma needs inseminating in the 21st century?!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tahli View Post
    @Summer I remember the hot guy out of the video clip! Where's he when a single mumma needs inseminating in the 21st century?!!
    Bahahahaha! You're just not doing karaoke right @Tahli ! You've got to sing the cheesy 80s songs and have big hair to get the guy!

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    @Summer it all sounds really stressful but be really happy with the fact that you are managing it the best you can. Many people don't have that inner strength so if anyone can get through it you can. Keep your eye on the prize as they say and hopefully things will come back to normal or close as can be for your dh. And then you can jump back aboard the ivf roller coaster xxx

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    @winsor how are you feeling? Did you have a 5 day embie put in? So you're now 7dpo?

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    @Charlie74 when is your transfer?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Green lady View Post
    @Gagingi - my first cycle was pure Gonal f which produced 19 eggs, 17 mature but only 7 fertilised as the rest ' disintegrated' with the ICSI. Given that I've not been keen to do Gonal f again which is why my FS switched me to menopur which I suppose at least has increased my fertilisation rate with the best rate being at 300 does rather than the 225 I was on previously. Still I only got 3 blasts from 12 fertilised and only two of those could be biopsied. If I decide to do another cycle I intend to ask about the alternating Gonal f and menopur option or even Gonal f plus luveris which means you can control the lh dose component.

    PGD results are due 12 Feb. I decided not to run around having scans and blood tests to prep for a transfer as I have done this twice which I find just adds false hope and adds to the devastation of getting an abnormal result. I will just wait on the results and if both are abnormal ( again) I will get some information on my two day 6 frozen ones and an opinion from my FS as to whether I should transfer one of them or do one more cycle before I turn 43 in June.
    That all sounds like a workable plan @greenlady. I so hope that at least one of your embies comes back normal, otherwise hopefully one of your frosties is your miracle.

    Interestingly I was looking at QFG stats the other day and 43 was the worst year for live births, prior to age 46. 44 and 45 were higher than 43, but off smaller bases... You've got to love stats!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Caesardust View Post
    @winsor how are you feeling? Did you have a 5 day embie put in? So you're now 7dpo?

    yes, it's a 5day blast. so today would be 7dpo. bit crampy, a little dizzy this morning, but I suspect this is the progesterone. still crossing fingers. hopefully it's attaching today all being well

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    @Summer I so feel for you and DH. IVF is such a stressor, you guys have had such a tough journey and DH having work stress is the the last thing you need. Thinking of you and hoping you both get the support you need.

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