@Precious40 - it's just crap. Blighted ovums are truly the work of the devil. I'm sure a lot of us have had one, I have.
It's just so unfair for you.
Where do I begin?
@Precious40, I am so very sorry hon. You gave this pregnancy such a red-hot go and you remained positive right to the end which is commendable. It is such a sad time for you and DH, and speaking from experience while it does get easier with time you never get over it, you just learn to live with the loss. I hope you and DH take some time to grieve the loss of your beautiful little baby who was so very much loved and wanted.
I presume your FS had spoken to you as to how to proceed now hon? There are some drugs such as Prednisolone which you will have to wean off gradually. To stop them suddenly can make you feel quite unwell, and feeling sick is not something you need when you are already in emotional distress. If you are unsure on how to wean off your particular medications I'm sure the lovelies on here can help guide you.
Are you going to need a D&C? It is such a personal choice. In the end I decided to go that route because it was quicker and it got it over and done with so that I could begin to grieve the loss of my baby properly. The other benefit to the D&C was that I could do some testing, which in one way turned out to be a blessing. I, like you, had been told I had a blighted ovum, but when the test results came through they said that fetal remains were identified. ie: I did not have an empty sac - at one stage there WAS a baby growing inside me. It was really important for me to have that acknowledged on paper. It also brought me a great deal of comfort, as did the test results which showed there was no identifiable 'cause' that ended my pregnancy. It was just bad luck, pure and simple.
I'm so sorry hon, it is just so much to take in and I (like everyone else on here) had so hoped that things would turn out differently than they did. So much of what you went through reminded me of when I lost my baby and my heart hurts that you, too, now know this kind of pain. I wish I knew the right words to bring you peace and ease your pain. Please know I am thinking of you and DH at this sad time
Last edited by Blossom74; 02-02-2016 at 19:40.
For those who may be interested....
So I spoke to my Nurse today, who in turn had previously spoken to my FS. She advised me that my FS agreed this cycle was a bust and was not worth pursuing. He has formulated a 'new plan' which is in fact my old plan - the one that yielded three follies and resulted in one fresh transfer and one frozen transfer that gave me my BFP
The Nurse said that my FS doesn't think I will have a bleed for quite some time. That would require me to ovulate and I have two stale little follies that are not doing much even under the influence of Gonal-F as they are/were. So the recommendation is that my cycle will need to be manipulated to make that happen.
I have refused to use the OCP (I swear, it puts my ovaries into hibernation) so will instead start 7 days worth of Primolut from the 18th February. Once I stop those I should have a bleed a few days later, at which point I ring my clinic for approval and then start stimming.
This cycle will be 100mg of Clomid (I like Clomid, I feel good on it and as I said I did use it in my successful cycle) and 400iu of Gonal-F - double what I was on this cycle. We'll see how things go on 7th March when I have my first scan.
If that doesn't yield sufficient follies I'd like to try some new drugs/combinations, and if THEY don't work I'll start advertising for an egg donor. I'm not going to throw the last of our money away on follies that don't come up to size in a 'normal' time frame.
So it's in the lap of the Gods. If we can somehow get 3 follies out of my crusty old ovaries we will proceed with those and what will be will be. If none fertilise we are out of money, and the only option I will have is to find a sperm donor and try to self-inseminate. It would be a low-cost-low-chance-of-success option, but I would feel I've done everything I could. It would also be an open ended way to leave things for me. Just never giving up but not losing money either.
So that's me. I feel like I have a concrete plan and I won't be swayed from it. I'm off my meds as of tonight and will enjoy the next two weeks of doing NOTHING
@Blossom i feel the same. It will happen for me but im in no rush. This time if we go ahead my dh needs to be healthy and my life needs to be sorted first. My stars need to align also. Yours first then mine i say. Fx for you luv.
I'm glad you have a new plan Blossom. enjoy the next couple of med-free days
dizziness started today, at lunchtime and just now. I had this last cycle around the same time. it could be the endometrim pessaries, but it only started today & I've been using them since fri night. arrghh symptom spotting.. stepping away from google in 10,9,8..
Evening ladies. Another damn pregnyl question. There are three vials in the box and I've only been prescribed to have two. One on 4dpo and 8dpo. I can't help but feel that I should do that last one as its in that box even though I double checked with the nurse and she said no the schedule says just twice. Should I push it?
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