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    Wow, your husband is being an a$$.
    You will be fine with your own baby.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    So the ..... Presumably older dude with 5 kids is having a go at the 20 year old first time mum to be for being nervous about holding a newborn?

    He needs to get off his high horse and stop being so condascending. OP: keep an eye on that type of behavior - would hate to see it escalate. Please come back here for support if you feel you need it down the track.
    Completely agree. He's putting you down in a passive aggressive way. Early warning sign of controlling behaviour

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    When we had our first bub we were so nervous I think it used to take us 10 minutes just to pass the baby over to each other with the where do I put my arms dance. Over two days we were pros at it. Totally understand your anxiety. Your hubby is being unreasonable and needs to back off as he is just adding to your anxiety. I agree with the others show him all the responses here

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    As others have said the only thing wrong with that situation was your husbands attitude.
    I have 2 kids and holding them did feel natural, not nervy like when it's someone else's.
    Since having children when I hear someone tell a first time mum "it should come naturally" oh I just want to scream, so so irritating and ridiculously unhelpful.

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    Mothering nature doesnt come naturally for myself, before I had my first I had nothing to do with babies despite having a large family,

    I was scared to even pick him up lol totally normal,
    Now I've had two and still get nervous holding others babies, not my own but others scare me still

    Your husbands behaviour is the only abnormal thing here

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    I also had never held a newborn before my own and was also nervous. I didn't even know what to do with him when he was born, the midwife was like "pick him up, give him a cuddle" and I was all "He's so little and I don't want to drop him" lol mind you he was literally just born and still wet and slippery. My husband handled all the bathing for the first week or so before I was confident enough to do it myself. I'm still terrified of holding other people's babies.
    If my husband ever tried to tell me I was embarassing him and "needed help" over something so trivial I'd probably have to resist the urge to punch him in the balls, to be honest.

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    Theres nothing abnormal about feeling that way and he needs to be more supportive not make you more anxious


 

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