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    show your husband this thread. hopefully he realises how insensitive he's being and that we all feel/felt this way at some point!!

    there's no shame in admitting how you feel!

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    Totally normal!! I had dreams where I dropped my baby hundreds of times and often woke up still nervous! And we breastfed until she was 2. Your husband is being a ****.

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    I still feel nervous/anxious holding anyones newborn and I have an almost 3 year old! Totally normal and your DH needs to cut you some slack.

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    I just wanted to throw my hand up and say I was also scared of holding a newborn. I'm a ftm with a seven week old and it didn't stop me from holding her and cuddling her and I'm not scared of holding her at all anymore. For what it's worth I'd still be a bit nervous holding someone else's newborn and the thought of holding a premmie baby terrifies me

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    Your DH is carrying on like a complete pork chop. Don't worry about him, and listen to all the previous posters!

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    Default Nervous about holding newborn..

    So the ..... Presumably older dude with 5 kids is having a go at the 20 year old first time mum to be for being nervous about holding a newborn?

    He needs to get off his high horse and stop being so condascending. OP: keep an eye on that type of behavior - would hate to see it escalate. Please come back here for support if you feel you need it down the track.

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    Yep - I'm with them!

    I'd never held a baby before I held my own and she's ten now and I still don't line up to hold babies!
    Even my god daughter who I saw come into the world, I have this anxiety of sh!t I hope I don't drop her!!

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    It's definitely a matter of it being someone else's baby. The fear of dropping someone elses precious newborn is real and your dh is being an a$$. It will be the most natural thing to you when it's your own little one.

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    Before having my daughter i was uncomfortable holding other babies, i held a friends 11 week old and it felt awkward, maybe because I'd forgotten about how floppy their heads are at first, i wasn't comfortable holding her bub, but it's completely different when its your own baby.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    So the ..... Presumably older dude with 5 kids is having a go at the 20 year old first time mum to be for being nervous about holding a newborn?

    He needs to get off his high horse and stop being so condascending. OP: keep an eye on that type of behavior - would hate to see it escalate. Please come back here for support if you feel you need it down the track.
    It's not often we agree, but these were my thoughts exactly.
    OP, the only thing wrong about the scenario you mentioned is your DH's behaviour.

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