I'm 20, 27 weeks and a FTM... I don't have any pre-pregnancy friends.. I have made friends with some expectant mums and already mums.. Two of my new found friends have had their babies in December and January.. I caught up with one of the ladies today and met her new little man for the first time (3 weeks old)... She already has two other children and was quite confident in letting me hold the newborn.. I however was not so confident.. I've never held a baby so young/small before.. Of course I wanted to.. I had the urge to just grab and snuggle but my anxieties held me back... I'm not worried that this will be a problem when my own little lady arrives... however my husband said I had embarrassed him (he has five other children) by not taking the baby straight away.. After we parted ways (I ended up having a hold of the little Bub with no worries) and my husband and I were alone, he told me it's not normal to feel nervous about holding a baby and I needed to speak to somebody.. He said he's worried that it may grow into not even being able to breastfeed or have the 'mothering nature' that should come naturally.. I tried to explain to him that I did WANT to hold the bub and it was just a feeling of nervousness but he insists that its not normal...
When I was holding the baby it felt completely normal and natural and my anxieties fell away..
I don't know how to convey this to my husband to make him feel better..
Is it abnormal? Should I speak to a professional??