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    Default pro's & con's of 3-4 kids..

    we have 3.. they are 3, 5 & 7.. im not 100% sure im done.. if i was to go ahead with it, the kids would be 4, 6 & 8 by then.. is this too large of a gap? On a good day i want a 4th on a bad day im unsure.. im 35 so i'd want to do it this year and that's it, i wouldn't want to leave it any longer.. what is it like with going from 3-4? with 2-3 i struggled more than 1-2.

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    I have two and am almost 34 weeks with my 3rd. However there will be 9 years between my youngest and this baby. Gapwise I don't think it matters, your kids will adapt. I'm 38 and didn't think I'd go through it again lol. My partner is 32 and this is his first so in a couple of years we may be in your situation lol. If this is what you want, go for it. You will never be this young again.

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    @GlitterFarts you know they say, you only regret the kids you don't have. I found going from 2-3 the hardest (but have 5yrs between 1&2, which I found easy, and only 2 yrs between 2&3 which I struggled with, so I think 4 years would be ace). I say if you have coped so far, and you want it - do it! There are no guarantees where children are concerned as you know! Best of luck with your decision.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GlitterFarts View Post
    we have 3.. they are 3, 5 & 7.. im not 100% sure im done.. if i was to go ahead with it, the kids would be 4, 6 & 8 by then.. is this too large of a gap? On a good day i want a 4th on a bad day im unsure.. im 35 so i'd want to do it this year and that's it, i wouldn't want to leave it any longer.. what is it like with going from 3-4? with 2-3 i struggled more than 1-2.
    I was never done after my 3. DH and I compromised on 4 so I had that unfinished feeling. I'll be having #4 in June finally. The other 3 will be 11, almost 9 and almost 7. I don't think age difference is really a problem. I'll be 37 just after this Bub is born.

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    We have 3 and I'm pregnant with a surprise baby number 4. The gaps will be 6 yrs from my oldest and 4 years for my twins when this one arrives. The gap both terrifies and excites me, time to spend with the littlest one while the others are at school will be great, but will it be hard going back to a newborn again? I don't think there's a right or wrong answer. You have to figure out what's right for your family.

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    Thanks for the replies ladies, for those that went on to have 4, what changed from having 3? Did u have to upgrade your car/house etc? I was either a 2 or 4 person as i was a part of 3 and i hated it.. With us, number 3 was a suprise and my dd who is 7 appears bitter as there are 3 of them and one is always left out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GlitterFarts View Post
    Thanks for the replies ladies, for those that went on to have 4, what changed from having 3? Did u have to upgrade your car/house etc? I was either a 2 or 4 person as i was a part of 3 and i hated it.. With us, number 3 was a suprise and my dd who is 7 appears bitter as there are 3 of them and one is always left out.
    I haven't had to upgrade anything but that's because I have a Kia grand carnival and a five bedroom house 😜

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    We have 4 1/2, 3, 18month and I'm 20 wks with no.4.... we are mad.
    after 3 I was DONE. Hubby not so much.
    This bub was a big old woops after a bout of gastro threw my cycles out.

    At the end of the day, I'm still unsure how I'm going to cope, but really what's another one hahaha
    We were very lucky in that we already had a 7 seater, so haven't needed to upgrade the car. And due to our lot being so close in age we are still either using or have the baby gear stored in easy reach.

    I really can't wait until they are all at an older age they fight like cats and dogs, but are also the bestest of friends and will play all day together.

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    I have 3. 5.5yo, 3.5yo and 4mth old. I'd love a 4th baby. But not sure how we'd fund it. If I go back to work before September we will try till Feb next year. Then it's quits.

    Dh doesn't want any more kids once he is 35yo. He is 34 this year.

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    I think with the age gap op you will be fine and the older kids will be a great help. Go for it if it's what you want.

    Dh would happily have a 4th if i decided too but is content with our 3 boys. I know I am done. Done with the expense of IVF and will glad to be done with daycare, besides my body has been through enough, for us having more would mean we should upgrade re house etc although we could make do it would be squishy and I'd go crazy. Work wise I've changed positions and studying. Nuh I'm definately done 😀


 

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