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    Our darling boy will be delivered sleeping in the next could of weeks at 24 weeks gestation.

    We recently found out he has severe heart problems and at best would live a very limited life requiring many surgeries.

    I am not after opinions or comments on our situation but I would really like some help with what to pack for hospital and if it would be good to get birth photos taken or really anything else you think will help.

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    No advice but lots of big hugs for you.
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    Oh mummymaybe, I am so so sorry xxx.

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    First of big hugs, I can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling.

    I have a friend who lost her son at 21 weeks so my advice is purely from her point of view.

    She said she was absolutely petrified of holding her son, let alone getting photos taken but she finally agreed and she said that really helped her as up until then she was feeling like it was all a nightmare and that it was happening to someone else, she is glad she got to hold him and has those photos to look at her son.

    She had plenty of counselling afterwards too and I think she is now in a place where she can talk about him a lot more.

    Prepare your family and friends that you will need their support...

    I am sorry this is happening to you and your son.

    Big hugs xxx

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    Hey OP so sorry xxx
    ***heartfelt*** is a non-for-profit organisation which provides photographic services to families with critically ill children or children who have passed away. Photographers are trained in working with families going through grief.

    Look them up - hopefully they can give you precious memories of your bubba.
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    I have no experience myself but I think collect as many memories as you can hon. Photos of your darling boy, and hand and foot prints if possible.

    Sending you massive hugs

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Hey OP so sorry xxx
    heartless is a non-for-profit organisation which provides photographic services to families with critically ill children or children who have passed away. Photographers are trained in working with families going through grief.

    Look them up - hopefully they can give you precious memories of your bubba.
    I'm sure it was just a typo / autocorrect, but I'm pretty sure @VicPark meant Heartfelt.

    https://www.heartfelt.org.au/

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    I noticed ur in Qld, I know a lady who does the birth photos foot prints etc, she says they do quite a few still borns, or short life's, so it is obviously something that helps some people. She is lovely, I forget her work details ( since that's not how we met) but could look them up if u want, she's actually done ivf to get her kids and lost a few earlier on so she is very understanding.
    Regarding hospital pack warmer and cooler gear I was all over shop with what I needed to wear changed day by day, I guess as hormones did. I found a nip of rum was great for stopping the hot sweats in their tracks! Which I guess ur likely to get too, they come with the baby blues, I found the sweating came just before crying started, I can't imagine having a reason to cry as well ....( no one seems to mention the hot sweats as part of postpartum things!)
    I didn't need many pads as I had a Caesar , only bled lightly but vaginal births tend to need more I hear from friends....
    Best wishes...

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    Great big hugs OP. I can't imagine how you must be feeling.

    For hospital pack comfy things - and if you're having a c section, granny undies are good as they wont sit on the incision.

    Definitely take photos. As many as you need. Hand prints and foot prints are also good to keep. I know they provide comfort to 2 of my friends who have had babes born sleeping. And maybe a teddy for bubs for you to keep.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lisau77 View Post
    I noticed ur in Qld
    Oh if you are in Brisbane, a mum at my kid's school volunteers for Heartfelt. I don't know if you can request a particular photographer or not, but her work is absolutely amazing and she has won a number of industry awards.

    If you like I can pm you her name.

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