weird double post
weird double post
Yes it would annoy me. If my sister and I say anything about our (human) children my mother will instantly respond with an anecdote about her cat. I'm glad she has her cat for company but she needn't be so quick to change the topic from you know, her grandchildren.
It would annoy me a little. Not enough to hold a grudge or anything but enough for me to want to vent! Vent away.
Yes it would bother me. A sore point for me is when mil buys sil dog a Xmas present or random toy but not our dog. I questioned her once on it and she said simply "well that's her kid. She doesn't have any kid yet so that is her child". So i think quietly to myself. Yes, OK I get she doesn't have any kids and I know she would like kids one day soon but there is history and that was her choice. Pets can be family, they should be too, but kids/children are human, pets or fur babies (not that I like that saying but it's acceptable enough for me) are animals. When I mentioned that our dog is considered family too the response I got was along the lines of "but that's different. You have the girls".
My rationale says she either rates sil dog (horrible, untrained, clumsy, huge oaf of a dog who jumps on everyone and rarely told off for doing so is kept inside all day even when there are visitors, pregnant visitors and visitors with babies and toddlers) as equals to our girls and our dog(who proved she was willing to use the last of her strength while literally on what could have been her deathbed as she was very ill from parvo to protect us against a scary looking stranger who came to the front door after we had spent thousands of dollars on her treatment) is not worthy, or our girls are on the same level as sil dog.
Our poor dog gets nothing from her. Ever. Lucky she(our dog) gets Christmas and birthday presents from us then!
Does it grind my gears slightly when people refer to dogs as kids? Since mil made those comments, Just a tad.
Last edited by DesperatelySeekingSleep; 22-01-2016 at 10:26.
No it wouldn't...we say our dog is our last child, though, so it would be pretty hypocritical of me to be upset if my mother referred to her dog as her kid.
I have not had this situation, but i think I would be a little annoyed to have a dog/cat get more attention, and affection than my children, grandchildren. my son and daughter in law, have a Labrador and I buy him a xmas present, but that is about the limit of how far I go. I speak to him when we visit and may give him a pat. they treat the dog as part of the family, but he is still the dog, he is not inside, and he is not demanding attention. marie.
I think our own mothers have greater ability to annoy us with little things than then general population would.
So hearing you tell the story doesn't annoy me at all. If it were my mother though? OH THE RAGE.
Yes it does annoy me a tiny bit. If I am in a mood, I tend to follow oh the fur kids I thought you were talking about your real kids you know the ones you gave birth too. But than again I problems with my parents deciding their younger friends or rellies they are their kids too. To the stage they were was of them being put in the will as equals. Now these so call friends have mostly disappeared.
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