Last edited by A&S; 20-01-2016 at 16:06.
Of course how you deliver this message could increase or decrease be chances of DH getting upset. Perhaps you could pass your hubby research on teenagers who abuse children. Or research of the difficulties abused kids face.
Bottom line though it's probably going to be a case of your hubby choosing to see the big picture and choosing to not have this come between you.
Last edited by VicPark; 20-01-2016 at 16:16.
It's a tough one. I would be torn on what to do myself and I too would want some form of documentation just in case for future reference.
I keep wondering if it's just a once off, stupid, stupid decision x made that would never ever ever happen again then the consequences of involving authorities could lead to irreversible damages to reputation etc and cause issues within the school and outer community. And also the DD would have to rehash possibly several times to total strangers and possibly cause more anxiety issues in coming forward in future should anything like this or worse happens again.
But if it's not a once off then he should definitely be put on record. There may be more to x situation.
It's a really really tough one. I think it comes down to how much trust there is in his dad that the right thing will be done.
@DSS please have a read of the article I posted a few posts back. It is really informative and gives some really good insight into the psychology of child abuse and the actions that are required.
Sorry but you don't once off tongue kiss a 4 year old!
Regardless of X being family, this should definitely be reported. This is considered sexual abuse and should be dealt with as so. If it was another 15 year old boy in the park who did this to your DD, I'm sure you would be on the phone to the police straight away. Things like this can escalate from kissing to so much more and this could prevent any reoccurrences.
This is a horrible position to be in, and I am so sorry this has happened to your family and your daughter but you need to follow your gut. Your child's safety and other children's safety is not something to be played around with or second guessed on the chance that X's parents may or may not do something about it.
I totally agree there should be ramifications but I think it's up to the parents TO BE GIVEN THE OPPORTUNITY (only done in caps to emphasis what I mean. I'm on the app do i don't have access to italics. I'm not yelling it in any way) to do the right thing. If it's apparent they won't and are just going to sweep it under the carpet then that's when I would take it further. But if the parents chose straight away, without any hesitation, that x is to go to counseling or get the police involved then I would much rather that option.
I'm not saying there should be no consequences. I'm just saying the parents would probably like to have the opportunity to deal with it appropriately.
Also I agree totally with what hopefully said. Everything. Important to keep dd away from x.
Actually the more I think about it the more I think this is something you need expert advice on. We can sit here and say 'call the police' or 'don't call the police, tell his parents' but what you really need is someone who is experienced in this area.
I'd call Bravehearts, explain the situation and see what they advise as the next step: 1800 272 831.
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