MIL did something that upset me yesterday and I'm not sure how to handle it. She kindly offered to mind DD for me while I had a nap with DS before my nightshift. I never asked where she was going or what she was doing with DD as previously I found she gets defensive if I ask. So I pack her a little bag and off she goes and comes home a few hours later. I asked what she did and they tell me they've been to a beauty salon to have their nails painted. DD has only just turned 5 and this is something I have been looking forward to doing and thinking about doing soon with DD - taking her to a real salon for the first time. She loves having her nails painted and we do it a fair bit at home. So having MIL take her without asking me first has really upset me. I never told MIL I had been thinking of doing it but I just would have thought something like that she could have checked with me first? Am I being unreasonable?
I think the reason it upsets me more is because she has done things like this before over the years - like taking her on her first bus trip when she was 2 (and not telling me until after they had been). I know its great she takes her out and does fun stuff but she almost gloating when she brings her back and tells me what they did together - and never asks me or DH first. She ALWAYS buys her a present while they are out (she looks after her maybe once a month) and sometimes its stuff I had on her birthday list - like last year her first princess Lego set. I'm getting more and more annoyed with it all and things have been strained with us to say the least so I'm not sure how to handle this?
Sorry for long post - any advice anyone?