Thank you for your story and what a scary one! You've been through hell!Lots of great advice so far. Important to remember that preeclampsia doesn't automatically mean early delivery there are lots of things they can do to manage it but if it gets out of hand it's best for you both to have bub out.
Here's my story.
So I was diagnosed with early onset preeclampsia at 31 weeks. Everything turned out ok for me but could have gone very bad.
I was put on methyldopa twice a day to control my blood pressure at 31 weeks and had twice weekly monitoring (BP, urine, bloods) plus ctg. I had a full scan at 32 weeks to check growth and cord blood flows which were fine. Bub had dropped from 72nd centile to 50-something but this wasn't a worry. By 32 weeks bub had started to go very quiet. As a first pregnancy I had nothing to compare it to. At my 32 week scan even the specialist ob commented how quiet bub was in there but everything 'looked ok'. She was estimated weight 2100g at this point.
My ob managed me as an outpatient.
At 34 weeks my kidneys started playing up and I was almost delivered the next day but things stabilised and my ob was very focused on getting me to 38 weeks. By this stage I was getting monitored every second day and methyldopa increased to 2 tablets three times a day (they can take the dose up quite high). It was a pain in the butt at the time as it was a day to day question of whether I'd be delivered but my ob was cautious and conservative.
In hindsight I should have been re-scanned at 34 weeks. I had a scan at my ob but should have been sent for another full scan, and the kidney problem should have been a red flag. Bub continued to be very quiet and I put it down to less space in there.
I had horrific swelling in my hands, legs, face from 33 weeks. I had a c-section booked for 37+5. At 36+2 I had a checkup and I was uncomfortable but reasonably stable. Platelets dropping over the course of the week but they were only just under the threshold. The next day I felt off and didn't get off the couch but put it down to being heavily pregnant. Again another sign I did not listen to. Which is surprising as I'm usually so on top of my health. The next day at 36+4 I had another checkup and my BP was 180/100 and wouldn't come down with extra medication and massive protein in my urine and I was almost eclamptic. I was admitted to ICU for a magnesium sulfate infusion and had an emergency c-section including a procedure to monitor the BP in my arteries. I was in ICU for 24hrs after her birth separated from my DD.
DD was 2.6kg and in the special care nursery for 2 weeks. Wow I never expected that. She was in a humidicrib for 3 days and had a nasogastric tube inserted for feeding for 2 weeks. I had a lot of BP trouble after birth so was in hospital 10 days to manage that. At 3 days post section I deteriorated and was bed bound and not allowed up to see bub for another day until they stabilised me. It was so sad.
My placenta was grossly abnormal so they sent it for pathology testing and it was only the size of a 25 week placenta. It's very lucky we got her out when we did. She's 6 months old now and thriving.
It's a fine balance between keeping bub in as long as possible and making a call to get them out early. Also there was no way to know how bad my placenta was before delivery but a couple of extra scans probably would have detected slowing growth and activity. If they can manage your symptoms and bub isn't distressed/not growing then hopefully bub can stay in there a bit longer.
It's certainly not pleasant but you're in the best hands.