I know its incredibly scary and hard, but you are in the right place for both you and bub. Have you got much support from family and friends?
I suggest the following:
- take some long deep breaths.
- get someone to bring you comfort items - clothes, books, magazines, nice pj's, snacks, laptop with movies, slippers, even your own pillow. Whatever will make you feel a little more 'at home'.
- distract yourself as much as possible. Watch TV, go for short strolls (if you're allowed), play a game on your phone, read a trashy mag, call a friend who will be happy to talk about normal 'stuff' - anything to pass the time and keep your mind off worrying.
- be friendly with the midwives and doctors. The middies who looked after me were like my friends. Try to keep even a slight sense of humour - it will get you through.
- try and get in the zone and realise this is something you have no control over. You are in the hospital because it's the safest place to be. The hospital want the best possible outcome for you and your baby. Remember that.
- ask the hospital (if they haven't offered already) for some information to read about having a premature baby. I found this helped me prepare. I was hoping to get much further along (at best I was told 36 weeks), but when the time came to deliver DS I was very positive about the outcome because I knew the survival rates were very high. If you are offered a NICU tour, definitely check it out.
Hope this helps
@Reneeharry this is my DS at exactly 31+4. This was two days after he was born, the first time I held him (I look quite serious here, but every other picture I'm beaming with smiles).
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As you can see, he's tiny, but he is breathing unassisted. The nurses commented on how 'feisty' and 'assertive' he was
It is amazing how strong these little premmies are.
Ask for a tour of the special care nursery if you're well enough to go for a quick walk over there.
If you're not well enough or the doctors/nurses aren't happy for you to leave the maternity ward ask for one of the paediatric doctors or special care nurses to come have a chat with you about what to expect for baby.
Generally babies born this early do really well. They usually don't need a breathing tube, but may need cpap (the funny little mask over their face) to help their lungs stay inflated between breaths or they will be able to breath on their own.
They'll need to stay in a humidicrib to keep them warm, but once stable can have kangaroo cuddles with you and your husband. As they get bigger and learn how to maintain their temperature they'll be able to come out to an open cot.
Babies born this early can't suck, so they'll have a little feeding tube that they can give expressed breast milk through. They'll also have a little drip to give fluids and medications through.
Try not to stress to much (easier said then done!). At this stage it's a balance between the risks of delivering bub early and the risks of you getting extremely sick. It sounds like at the moment the risks of delivering early are outweighing the risks of you getting sick but as the hours and days progress at some point the balance will tip and they'll need to deliver bub.
It can be hard not being able to get answers about what's going to happen, but just try and focus on getting through each hour and day at a time.
It is so scary to know she will be born early it keeps me up at night.
Wow! That's crazy you were born that early but makes me fee good knowing that you are ok. I just want to grow to and help her get strong I don't want a premmie baby, who does.
I have amazing support from dh, mum,mil and friends and family...
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