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    I can only imagine that you and your DH are not the only people to have noticed - surely over the years other people have said something to them It's truly negligent parenting.

    I'm guessing that they think they know best and don't care for the so-called 'rules'.

    If you don't think you can have an upfront conversation about it, I'd consider reporting it anonymously. It's better than doing nothing at all.

    I'd personally be tempted to try and give them a seat, even if that meant buying one second hand of buy/swap/sell. I guess even then, it's no guarantee they'll use it just because they have one

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    Could you bring it up as a conversation about you? Eg. "Bub 2 on the way, gotta get another car seat. Hey, did you get the Britax one I recommend or go with something else? I'd like one that lasts birth to 8yo since they need to be in.something til they are at least 7."

    Then they have a question about their (lack of) seat to answer and you can start the conversation there. But it won't be you confronting them directly about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mama Mirabelle View Post
    Yesterday we had some relatives over, when they were leaving DH walked them out and later he told me they didn't have a car seat in their car for their 4yo. That reminded me that years ago when our kids were only a few months old we had a conversation where the mum said she still didn't have a car seat (her DS would have been almost 1 then) and asked me for recommendations. I was very clear that she should get one asap and told her which one I had and suggested some places she could get one.

    Yesterday when DH told me I was shocked that 3 years later she still doesn't have one and I assume her child has never been in a car seat. I'm really uneasy about that, it's so dangerous.

    This family is the type though that if you say anything to them they can fly off the handle and turn things into huge family fights. Would you say something or just keep your mouth shut. DH thinks I should say something and I do too but I'm wary of getting involved.
    Do you think it's a financial thing? Not saying there is any excuse but I think there are genuinely people out there that struggle with things like that. I'm the kind of person that would just go buy a 2nd hand booster seat and offer it to them as a gift, even say 'oh it's a spare we had we thought you might be able to use it'.

    I couldn't sit back and do nothing. I'd feel soooo guilty if anything happened to the child and I hadn't done anything to try to help.

    At least giving them a gift is a nice gesture, in no way offensive, and if they would more than likely use it? Just a suggestion, may or may not be appropriate.

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    Report it to the police. I have worked in childcare and have seen this happen. Police will often find the car and wait until they're driving to then pull them over and give them a fine. We have even had parents turn up drunk and then drive their kids home. Of course as soon as they leave we are on the phone to the police so the police can follow up and make sure they get home safely, as well as hand out fines, etc.

    There is absolutely no excuse good enough for risking your child's life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mama Mirabelle View Post
    Unfortunately I'm not in a position to give them a car seat. We're having our second child soon so have to buy a second one ourselves plus we have never had car seats in DHs car and I'd like to get one for his car too so when we have the second he can take DD1 out sometimes or drop her off at daycare etc.

    Also money can't be the issue as they spend quite a lot, always have the latest iPhone, iPads, laptops, cameras, the son wears a lot of kids designer clothes and shoes.

    So I think it's is laziness or just a way of thinking that car seats aren't that important (you know old fashioned 'we lived without them and we're fine' sort of thinking).

    I shudder to think what would happen if they had an accident. It seems
    so reckless to me. DH was appalled. If I were to say something what should I say?
    Ahh I assumed lack of $$ was the issue. Why the f would one not put their baby in a car seat otherwise... If that is their style of parenting then yeah report them. Insane.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babymummatobe View Post
    Report it to the police. I have worked in childcare and have seen this happen. Police will often find the car and wait until they're driving to then pull them over and give them a fine. We have even had parents turn up drunk and then drive their kids home. Of course as soon as they leave we are on the phone to the police so the police can follow up and make sure they get home safely, as well as hand out fines, etc.

    There is absolutely no excuse good enough for risking your child's life.
    Off topic but I'm surprised that you are allowed to let them leave with their parents when they are drunk and about to drive, surely there must be some law that allows you to refuse to hand them over if you have immediate and urgent concern for their safety?

    If not what a horrible position for you to be put it.

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    Default Parents don't use car seat wwyd?

    I definitely think you should say something or report them. Their child needs someone to speak up and protect him.

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    I would definitely say something and also report them to the police.

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    If they are the type to get aggresive i may not say anything to their face. But i would be straight on the phone to the police to report them

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    Quote Originally Posted by MrsA2B View Post
    Off topic but I'm surprised that you are allowed to let them leave with their parents when they are drunk and about to drive, surely there must be some law that allows you to refuse to hand them over if you have immediate and urgent concern for their safety?

    If not what a horrible position for you to be put it.
    They have legal custody of the child and we are not allowed to prevent them from taking their child unfortunately. We can try and delay, etc but if they leave the only thing we can do is call the police.


 

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