Oh dear, I was a defence spouse a long time ago. I found defence playgroups painful and mums were a lot more clickier. I don't have any girlfriends where I live, and I have gotten to the point where I can't be bothered. Have been at our new location for about 3 or 4 months, and haven't really made friends with anyone. One mum asked me for my number and I gave it to her, but haven't done anything about it. I have moved that many times as a kid then as an adult, it gets exhausting making friends. I have girlfriends on facebook who live distances away, and I have chats with them online occasionally, but outside my kids and my DP, I am not overly concerned...I am expecting my 3rd bub, my DP's first so when this baby is born, I might get out and go to a playgroup or something...Good luck on finding some friends.
Hmmm... now that I think about it, most of our friends over the last 15 years have come and gone, and we're the odd exception staying put here.
Last edited by Gentoo; 15-01-2016 at 22:04.
Eta: I also had some of dh's uni friends say something similar to me when I mentioned to them a few years ago (we'd been together probably 7 years by then) how hard it was to break into their group of friends. 'Well we didn't think you'd be around long so didn't see the point of becoming friend.' Nice logic, we're married now, 13 years together and I'm still not that close with that group of friends because it was so hard in the beginning to fit in I kinda gave up on them.
Last edited by HollyGolightly81; 15-01-2016 at 22:16.
I often see moms on my local FB group that have/are having their second or third child asking if there are any other moms in the same boat that want to start up a regular coffee/playdate group since most community groups are aimed at first time moms. Could you try that?
Also, do I remember correctly that you normally go to church? Have you found one in Canberra yet? That would help with networking, volunteering at their playgroups, etc.
I think a big difference in Australia is that it's not the norm to move away to go to uni like it is in so many other countries. I imagine that it creates a huge mental shift across the psyche of a country when a lot of its population move when they finish school. That just isn't the norm here.
I've found people here either seem to never move or move constantly. Both can make it hard to make friends.
Eta: don't get me wrong, I now love Melbourne and by the time we left I felt I had a great group of friends but I kinda hated my first two years there, it took a while to feel like I could be happy living there forever.
Last edited by HollyGolightly81; 15-01-2016 at 23:06.
I definitely think Australia's physical isolation doesn't help. It's a destination not somewhere you stop on the way to somewhere else. Perth is one of the most (if not the most) isolated capital cities in the world. I forgive a lot of its faults once all that is factored in.
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