My DH knows what I want. He was really good with my first. I did not speak much during labour (except to crack a joke or two). At the beginning I did tell the midwives I was ok with epidural if required but pretty much just go with it.
I consented to all the shots. Also to syntocinon which I will do this time. I will not be taking my placenta so if that is something important make sure they know! I lost track of everything after baby was out!
So my plan is mostly whatevs. Probably not helpful.