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    Default Found out today

    Hi all, am completely new here began lurking for a while, trying to soak in heaps of info when I found out I was pregnant. Found out today after a second blood test that my hcg dropped from 27 to 8 in two days. Started bleeding this arvo... My partner and I are devastated. My main feeling is anger (I only just turned 30, so I thought I was at a lower likelihood for this to happen, so I guess the naïve/ignorant "why me" feeling is there...)

    I am terrified to try again even though I really want a baby. I had only just come off the pill when I fell pregnant immediately (was on and off for a few years). I suffer from anxiety and take medication, so hoping I can get through this.

    Any kind words or advice for the next pregnancy after a miss will be so appreciated.

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    No advice, but big hugs. TTC can be such a roller coaster. Hang in there. Xox

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    So sorry to hear about your loss. Take it easy & take care of yourself. My only advice would be wait a couple of cycles (i personally waited two) until you are physically and emotionally ready to think sbout TTC again. When I had a mc,my dr told me it wasnt because of anything I did wrong. I found it comforting to know I couldnt have prevented it in any way. Allow yourself to grieve,it's a tough time xxx

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    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.
    Please take only good care of yourselves xxx

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    Go gently and take your time, you're going to feel the whole process of grief and have so many questions as to why it happened /why me etc.
    Going from the elation of carrying a baby (no matter how early on) to suddenly having that just disappear is terribly hard.
    I'm very sorry for your loss xx

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    Thank you all so much it's nice to hear from others as it's a lonely feeling! Last night I lay in bed feeling so distressed that I honestly thought, I'm not going to bother again, because the risk of losing one again is too sad... I'll just get a puppy but today I woke up and it dawned on me that this is part of life and the journey, so I'm gonna keep trying


 

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