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    Default Wanting more children, hubby does not!

    Just wondering if anyone else out there has experienced this before? I'm wanting to have another child but my husband defiantly does not. I'm finding it difficult to get my head around never being pregnant again. Any advice would be great!

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    I am in the same position as you!

    Hubby feels like he is finished but I am not so convinced.

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    Default Wanting more children, hubby does not!

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    It sucks... I'm lucky because I have 3 beautiful children and I am so grateful for them but I just don't feel like we're finished. The thing is we often joke about having a 4th and we aren't exactly using any protection but when the talks turn serious he's answer is outright NO. I'm scared that if we have an oopsie too he'll thing I've done it deliberately

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    I think with three healthy children, it is perfectly reasonable to say that's it. Unless you have unlimited financial resources.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LeonieJane View Post
    It sucks... I'm lucky because I have 3 beautiful children and I am so grateful for them but I just don't feel like we're finished. The thing is we often joke about having a 4th and we aren't exactly using any protection but when the talks turn serious he's answer is outright NO. I'm scared that if we have an oopsie too he'll thing I've done it deliberately
    I think you need to decide what happens if you do have an accident (our 4th was an accident so I speak from experience). If he's so adamant he doesn't want any more kids he needs to either wear a condom or get the snip.

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    If you get pregnant now he can't blame you. He's being just as careless as you and I can only assume he knows how babies are made..?!

    I would suggest maybe speaking to a third party about it. You may have to choose what is more important.. A non existent additional child or your relationship. I don't envy you, it is not a position I would like to be in!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meitis View Post
    I think with three healthy children, it is perfectly reasonable to say that's it. Unless you have unlimited financial resources.
    I agree... But what's with the entertaining the idea and joking about it with me one minute to outright no the next... He knows I want another... I don't think toying with my feeling about it is fair either. And we do t have unlimited fund but we live quite comfortably.
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    So he has clearly said he doesn't want more children, but refuses to get the snip or use protection? If you have a whoopsie he has zero basis for saying you deliberately did it. He knows how babies are made, he refuses to take responsibility to prevent. You've pointed this out right? lol

    I can't take hormonal contraception, I get shocking side effects. So DH got the snip. End of story. They go on like they are dying but seriously, it's easy peasy. A bit of bruising and soreness for a few days. So much less invasive than any permanent measures for a woman.

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    Hi hun, please dont take this the wrong way, and i mean no offence by it.

    However if you arent using protection and it takes 2 tango, why arent you on contraception or forcing him to use contraception if he so clearly doesn't want a 4th child?

    Relationships can quickly turn sour when one party wants another and the other doesn't, but in the meantime nothing is done to prevent.

    I think if you desperately want a 4th child then a serious conversation with your OH needs to take place so that you both know where you stand.


 

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