@lozza, for us it was the opposite. The anonymity was the thing we liked about the overseas process. I might be selfish, but I don't want the donor involved in my child's life. I'm his mother from the first moment and that's it. The only thing that concerns me is that I don't have a full medical history of the donor and her family. But sometimes we don't know our own family medical problems. We took a chance and we knew the consequences from the beginning. But this is my personal opinion. Good luck with your decision.