Lolly99 I feel like we need to be listening to "Eye of the Tiger" while reading your post!!
Thanks Tahli, I am not sure, but remember reading somewhere and they talked about the Dr helping to chose a proven successful donor.
I am looking at doing a fresh cycle, since we do not have any frozen embryos.
Please let me know what the fees are.
What helps with the disappointment, heartache and hurt?
QUOTE=Tahli;8436186]@mummy2016 Are you looking at doing a completely fresh donor cycle at CFC with a young proven donor? I'm not sure if the Dr can choose some-one for you...would you not like to choose your own donor? If you don't want to choose yourself you could ask your Dr's nurse to make a recommendation of a young black donor who is wonderfully proven. I think the fees would be the same the second time. I'll let you know as I'm waiting for the new fees schedule. Big hugs, xx.[/QUOTE]
@Blinky76 I think I've just done the kitchen sink cycle! I've never been on so much medication as this cycle. I got really sick on the 1000mg of Metformin and had to lower it to 500mgs a few days prior to transfer due to an hypoglycemic episode.
LB is my FS here in Melb and I consulted with Dr Matthias for this cycle too. I had 2 months off prior and then LB did a hysteroscopy, D&C and endo scratch.
The only thing I scrimped on was intralipids. I did my usual 200mls of intralipids but Dr M recommended 400mls, which would have meant flying up to Sydney to do. I have MTHFR and NK Cells which I'm on all the correct meds for.
The very, very last thing I'm doing is an ouchy Tubal Patency next week to rule out Hydrasalpinx's.
I think I've covered all my bases but feel free to suggest any-thing you think might help!!
@cjocoh71 Yeah, I really thought I was in with a good chance too, esp after getting positive FRER's for 4.5 days. It's some-what doing my head in wondering it was my ED. She has helped 3 women get pregnant, then on her 4th donation all embryos arrested on day 4 which every-one put down to sperm quality, then there's my donation. So I just really don't know.
Thanks so much for sharing your story. I remember all too well starting out the ED process and thinking it was magically going to work. I'd mentally set myself up for 3 transfers as a worse case scenario. IVF has a way of making naive fools of us some-times.
Well done on having the strength to cut your loses with ED1 and move onto ED2. It must have been tough at the time. What a wise decision and super congrats on your precious babies!
I'd love the details of both of your ED's, thanks truckloads! I appreciate the help. xx
She's reached her family limit..damn!! But great for the families of course!!! Super, massive, humongous good luck for your trip next week. What day is actual transfer day? Are you doing a single transfer?
Tahli! I'm trying to be inspiring and share your load. Seriously you are amazing. I feel like I fluked it in CT that it's all a dream. We seriously thought I would be going over on my own probably once or twice more. I'm still not convinced! Won't believe it till the three of us come home from the hospital in July and are safe in our arms.
@Tahli and @mummy2016 I am so sorry for your BFN. Infertility is so hard. Kudos to you for thinking about the future.
My donor was young (21) and proven (3/4 pregnancies, then me, pregnant with a miscarriage). I had 21 follicles and 12 embryos. Although I chose her for looking like my niece, two of my criteria were under 25 and proven. I used EDSA (Kimenthra at CFC) and they seemed to know which were good donors.
@mummy2016 Even with increased fees, I think CFC is about half the price of a donor cycle in Canada. The other positive is that CFC sees so many more patients and you have a much broader selection of donors. Cape Town was a no-brainer for me as it is legal in SA and the donors get compensated. Here the agencies seem to have much more financial benefit than the donors (and that irks me).
Also for those other Canucks, you can claim foreign medical expenses on your taxes. Check it out.
I am reading an interesting book called 'An Exact Replica of a Figment of my Imagination' by Elizabeth McCracken about her stillborn son.
This blog has some articles about dealing with infertility: http://infertilityhonesty.com/2016/0...d-it/#more-916 Her February 2014 post on 'When Fertility Treatments Fail' goes over a lot of things: http://infertilityhonesty.com/catego...eatments-fail/
Hi @mummy2016 im sorry you got a bfn. Thats not fair. I have had lots of them and they almost destroy me each time, i honestly dont know how to move on after them. Its very emotionally draining. Im sending you hugs via bubhub xx
You can ask your nurse to recommend a young and proven donor with the qualities you want. I found that asking the donor agencies for recommendations of proven donors was a little unreliable in that their idea of proven was not good enough for me. They would say they were proven because they had a good egg retrieval and had a child of their own but when i requested the donation report (which you can get from your nurse if they also donated at your clinic-in my case it was Cape Fertility) i was not impressed a lot of the time. I really wanted a donor that ended up getting good blasts and had a few left over to freeze. I did a lot of emailing back and forth between donor agency and cfc nurse and found a girl i was happy with. You need to first ask donor agencies to send you a list of their recommendations and then email your nurse coordinator and request the donatin reports on their previous cycles. Thats the best way to get an idea of how they go with their meds and collection. Of course this is not 100% guaranteed as every cycle is different and you also need to consider sperm factor but it puts confidence in yourself to know you will most likely get over 4 blasts to freeze instead of maybe 1 or none. Its stressfull for sure. Take your time to grieve and process xxxx ps sorry for harping on! Also thank you for that beautiful poem, it made me cry xx
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