lolly I'm with you. I for one would do anything to be in your or any other BFP shoes. I definitely would rather have 'hard' then nothing at all right now.
With our first attempt we used GiftovLife and overall was not impressed, although I know many others have been. Once they were paid they had no further 'need' for us and made no efforts to keep us abreast of what was going on with our donor, as the process began to unfold. Following our BFN they sent a terribly insensitive email looking to close another "transaction" with us, which I felt was in terribly poor taste.
Our second attempt was with Baby2Mom and Jenny was delightful to deal with and very conscientious throughout the full journey. Although this added to the overall experience, ultimately it was her very large and exhaustive database that really attracted us. Like many others have said, I would choose the agency on the basis of finding your ideal donor and not the other way round. Then you just hope that the agency is decent to deal with, for the short time that you really need to be doing so.
And then finally with our second and most recent attempt we were solidly focused on a proven donor who had children of her own, and had donated successfully. Also a non-smoker, without any glaring medical issues and my DP prefers taller women (!) Notwitstanding all of these criteria, I had to be able to look at a donor's pics and like what I saw.
Hope this helps.
Much love to you and best of luck as you embark on what I hope is your most positive experience.
Last edited by cjocoh71; 22-01-2016 at 21:57.
We too are in our mid-40s and have had multiple go's at this baby making journey. Supremely grateful for where we find ourselves now and not afraid to admit that we are over the moon about the thought of twins as well, given we always wanted more than one. Very conscious of the inherent health risks and then that life might be a little (!) chaotic for awhile once these babes arrive, but both DP and I have lived very interesting and fulfilling lives to here, and we are more than ready for this next chapter and all the joys (and challenges) it will bring.
Continued good health to you for the balance of your journey.
Hi . @Outoftime and @BB4Me I will be in Cape Town ... from 12th to 24th Feb so may give us the opportunity to meet up. I chose my donor thru Jenny at Baby2mom... she was very helpful.. To others in the planning stage.. I would suggest that you use any agency that has the donor you like the look of.
Where do you plan staying... does anyone have recommendations? I stayed in Sea Point when I was there last time.. a couple of years ago..
Hi everyone, thanks for your tips on donor agencies. Last time i fell in love with my donor because she looked like my younger sister. I probably got myself too attached to the idea of her so i said to my hubby and myself this time we wouldnt focus too much on looks but rather someone who is a proven and healthy donor(even though my last donor was younge and very healthy). Before i made my choice i just wanted to check that these new companies i have been dealing with dont have any bad stories attached to them. So far Jenny from baby2mom and rikki from sunshine have be very very helpful. It is harder picking my second donor because i feel like there is more then everything riding on it!! I want the golden eggs!
I hope I get twins one day too double trouble double the love.
Yes @JulieMalooley we do get to freeze any eligible remaining embryos. And you hit the nail on the head...I know if we had no babies we may be still trying at 47, but it wouldn't be my choice. We just have to hope that we get pregnant quickly so we can try again quickly... and hope it doesn't take as long the second time .
It certainly isn't a case of 'wanting twins' @KMP, I know the risks and would be scared to death... but if it was a choice between twins or no babies, I would take risk.
Last edited by Gen72; 23-01-2016 at 08:25.
Another recommendation for Jenny at baby2mom from me. I did notice two nights ago that she had an 18 year old donor listed, who was a twin herself and further twins in her family. Imagine putting two of her embryos back in...quads any-one?!!
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