My post from the other day to you will probably now make more sense (where I said about women who believe they're in a stable relationship having a child/children and the relationship ending down the track anyway for whatever reason). I just didn't add the "like me" part to it at the time.
Good luck with your appointment Luv. I can imagine how daunting and stressful it must be, but the again, once it's done you can draw a line under the whole thing (legally speaking) and be done.
I have all that to look forward to in the near future though I doubt it will be too complicated as we don't own a house etc and have no debts either so ours will be more geared toward getting parenting orders in place (mainly so Ex-DP feels more reassured I'm not going to do what his Ex did to him with his older children despite my saying all along since we decided to have a child that I wouldn't do that....He's still carrying baggage from that time though).
I expect him to have as close to 50% care and access of DD as is practicable from here on in for her sake. Obviously that won't be able to properly happen unless or until he's living here in Brisvegas in his own place etc but it is what I intend to happen in the future.
Anyhoo...hope today's appointment goes as smoothly and as pain free as possible for you