@BlondeinBrisvegas Its our turn to be there for you. Be kid to yourself and proud of yourself for taking a huge step. 2016 the year of stepping up.
@BlondeinBrisvegas Oh no, I feel so sad for you both but I feel proud of you for taking the step, that takes real courage and strength. I can only imagine all the stuff thats going on in your head right now and hope that we can be here to vent to at any time and that you know we are supportive of you and things to come.
There is never any need to apologise for being a little absent!! my god you are the rock in here with the personal replies and it goes above and beyond what any of us expect about an online support group.
It sounds like you are both working together to sort everything out so I guess thats the most you can both do to make it a little easier if thats possible, to move on. Im sure DD will be just fine as Im sure that unhealthy relationships do nothing for anybody. Look after yourself, and do what you need to do to get through it all.
sending you a huge hug
I am very saddened to hear of your news today @BIB, but I think you and ex DP have made absolutely the best decision as far as your DD is concerned.
Life is too short to live in an unhappy relationship, and personally I think a lot of couples parent better apart than they do together anyway. It sounds, from what you have said, like both you and ex DP have DD's very best interests at heart and I think that is commendable. At the end of the day, as long as she feels loved and stable and supported, and the two of you can work together for her benefit - well, the better off she will be in all of this.
As for you my love, you must be feeling very fragile and emotional right now. Even decisions that are 'for the best' can be gut-wrenching to make. I am sending you the warmest of hugs today
@BIB, you are one of the strongest, wisest, and most resilient women I have ever had the pleasure to come across. I have no doubt, as you and DD move forward together, that you will build a lovely new life together.
Please be kind to yourself, and we'll try not to sink the ship while you are away!
Hugs always ,
Oh @BlondeinBrisvegas my heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry you've been having such a difficult time of it, and for quite a while it seems, and that it's come to the point where you've had to make such a hard decision.
You are such a kind, generous, loving, supportive, intelligent woman, you deserve the very best in life and a man who totally cherishes and adores you and it doesn't sound like you have had that in your life for some time.
It sounds like DP is being sensible about it all, which is something, so I hope you can work it all out amicably. Do you have much support around? Are you able to lean on anyone? I know many of us been there and it is just the worst - not just coming to the point of knowing it's not going to work (which in itself I think is the hardest part), but the loss of the future you imagined and envisioned. Thinking of you today
@BlondeinBrisvegas I am so sorry to hear your news. I may understand what you mean by his "make up" and am glad you have been strong enough to make the decision.
My dad had a personality that made him hard to live with. I would watch him belittle my mum and felt bad that I knew she had stayed because they had 5 children. They finally separated but a lot later than they should have. I don't mean to turn this in to myself, but just letting you know you are doing the right thing.
Please take time away and focus on yourself instead of all of us for once. When you come back we will have some nice BFFP's for you, promise.
So sorry bib. You're very brave and strong. It sounds like the best decision for you both. Take your time to grieve the relationship and come back to is on your own time. Xo
@BlondeinBrisvegas I just popped on briefly and saw your post. Very sorry to hear you are going through this, but if the decision is yours then it's the right thing. Of course you will grieve and I hope it all remains amicable. You have all the ladies on these threads to lean on for support, me included. As you have been such an awesome "rock" for everyone and a fountain of knowledge that has got so many of us through many situations. Be good to yourself.
Take care .
Gee it's quiet on here today. How is everyone travelling?
@Precious40, how are you today hon?
Me...I'm trying to figure out how to make a bit of extra spending money. Currently got some of my unwanted goods up on Buy Swap Sell, but need something a little more definite than that.
An extra $100 a week would make a huge difference to us right now.
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