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    Default Would you ask?

    If you were thinking of naming your baby the same name as a good friends' child, would you ask them if they were ok with that?

    When my good friend named her baby I told her that I loved the name and actually it was on our short list for DD but we didn't use it. Now we're having another girl and thinking of using the name.

    We saw them today with a group of friends and another friend was suggesting names to us and suggested their daughters name and I said actually we're considering it and I got the distinct feeling her and her DH were not ok with that, they sort of did an awkward laugh and gave each other a look. So I kind of don't want to ask in case they say no.

    Just wondering what others would do?

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    Only ask if you would be prepared for them to say no and be ok with it.

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    I would choose another name. Particularly if you are close friends.

    We had friends who had a boy, and named him the same name as my son. I found it a little weird, as they had never mentioned liking the name before. And it's not an overly common name.

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    No one owns a name. Use it if you want.

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    No I wouldn't ask. I would pick a name I like, too bad if it's the same.
    Nobody "owns" a name. It doesn't mean your child cannot have the same first name, particularly if it's popular or common- it is for a reason! It's because it's a nice name!

    Imagine your regret your whole life thinking "I should of called her xxxxx"

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    Hmmmm. I'm in the camp that no one has 'ownership' of a name and if you've always loved it and considered it before they used it and you've got your heart set on it then use it.
    I don't think you need to ask permission but be prepared for them to be miffed possibly. Sounds like you've already tested the waters so I'd leave it at that. If someone used my DDs beautiful name it wouldn't bother me at all, in fact I'd take it as a bit of a compliment lol but I do realize lots of people are sensitive about this.
    Is it a common-ish name (say like Georgia, Olivia etc)? If so then they're going to come across lots of other little girls with the same name. If it's really really obscure then I might think twice about using it. Think about how much you see them, likelihood of a long long friendship etc. but I always go back to if that's the name you really really love then use it.
    Sorry I think you'll get better advice from someone strongly on the other side of the fence on this one!

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    Use it .. my first cousin name his daughter the same name as my ďaughter...' Taleisha' .. they didn't ask .. and I didn't care .. I just thought it was cool that they liked the name I picked

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveLivesHere View Post
    No one owns a name. Use it if you want.
    I agree with this. I never understood people being protective over names. No one owns a name there are probably thousands of people with that name. If you love it use it, that's what it's there for.

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    I would use it for sure. If they are miffed, that's their problem. No one owns a name.

    I had had a friend in primary school who's Mum wanted to name her a particular name but her friend used it a few months earlier so she chose a different name. Within 5 years she was no longer close to that friend and she regretted not naming her daughter the name she loved. Just something to think about.

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    Well given their first reaction i dont think they are going to say 'yay great do it' if you ask them.
    Decide between you & hubby if you want to use it.

    Is it an unusual name?


 

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