Hi ladies, hoping somebody can help me out here.
My partner has a 4yo daughter and my daughter is also 4, we live together and have my step daughter every second weekend. The girls used to get along great, now it's awful and they fight ALL the time his daughter is cared for by her grandparents 5 days a week and given everything she wants and she's not great socially as she doesn't get the chance to interact with other kids often.
She doesn't do what I ask her to do, talks back, she told me I was fat and told me my car is disgusting and she constantly lies about my daughter hurting her (will say my DD hit her when I'm sitting right next to them).
We have her every second weekend for 3 nights Fri-Mon.
My issue is that my partner has started doing rotating shifts so 2 weekends every second month he will be working the weekends we have her. He works nights so leaves at 4pm, gets home at 7am, sleeps til 2-3pm then leaves for work again at 4pm.
I'm feeling really guilty and awful but I don't want to look after his daughter on my own on the weekends he's working. I'm feeling quite anxious and stressed about it, about her behaviour and not listening to me and the constant fighting between the girls is just awful.
On those weekends he'd literally see her for 3-6hours total so I feel like there's no point because he'll barely see her. I don't think her mum knows she'll be left with me either which stresses me out and will cause issues.
My daughter is about to start school and SDD is really hard to get to bed (1.5hrs of tantrums) so I'm worried about that affecting my daughter too.
Please help, am I being totally selfish or should I talk to him about this?