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    DD is only just 3. And has very limited language so we find visual cues work well. But you could just do generic pictures as I'm sure your DD is old enough to understand.
    And I have a picture of her playing alone and playing with mummy/daddy... which helps the tantrum of 'I want your attention right now'.
    Possibly worth a try.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tamtam View Post
    DD is only just 3. And has very limited language so we find visual cues work well. But you could just do generic pictures as I'm sure your DD is old enough to understand.
    And I have a picture of her playing alone and playing with mummy/daddy... which helps the tantrum of 'I want your attention right now'.
    Possibly worth a try.
    I'm willing to try anything!!

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    http://www.parenting.sa.gov.au/helpline.htm

    I've called a similar helpline in nsw and found them good but my issue was with an older child.

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    It sounds really tough, I feel for you. I'd probably start with some counseling for yourself to help deal with your own reactions/feelings initially. The psych may also know of some good programs or specialist psychs in your area to help with the behaviour management. If you have a good paed I'd also suggest seeing them so they are aware of the behaviour issues. It's always good to work with both medical and psychological professionals so you know you've got all bases covered.

    Have you ever had her hearing checked by any chance?

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    Quote Originally Posted by A-Squared View Post
    Does anyone know of any services like parenting coaching.

    I want to see someone who can work with our family on discipline and assisting our family dynamic. At the moment DD is really defiant but really emotional as I think she's struggling with no longer being an only child.

    This in turn is taking a toll on me mentally and my relationship with her and with my DH. I'm just miserable and get angry at her and withdrawn from DH.

    I need someone who can look at us as a family unit and help us come up with a plan on fixing things.

    Kind of like a supernanny really is what I'm after.

    I don't want a generic broad brush parenting course, I need advice and assistance to suit our family's 'individual' needs.

    Or do I just need to see an counsellor with experience assisting parents with parenting?

    Any recommendations greatly appreciated. I'm starting to lose my mind! I'm miserable
    My advice is to see a child psychologist. We did this at one point to help with ds1's behaviour. It was a really positive experience and things improved dramatically with some good advice and a parenting dvd to watch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blessedwith3boys View Post
    My advice is to see a child psychologist. We did this at one point to help with ds1's behaviour. It was a really positive experience and things improved dramatically with some good advice and a parenting dvd to watch.
    Without knowing what's going on with your DD I tend to agree. I was beside myself with DD2 when she was about 4 and a half and her child psych was amazing. We got a lot of help for her but so much was about understanding how our response made her worse.

    That's definitely worth considering.

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    In wa theres parenting wa

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    Wow, there's a lot of good advice here, not sure where to start!

    Quote Originally Posted by Cue View Post
    It sounds really tough, I feel for you. I'd probably start with some counseling for yourself to help deal with your own reactions/feelings initially. The psych may also know of some good programs or specialist psychs in your area to help with the behaviour management. If you have a good paed I'd also suggest seeing them so they are aware of the behaviour issues. It's always good to work with both medical and psychological professionals so you know you've got all bases covered.

    Have you ever had her hearing checked by any chance?
    Yeah I've been planning on going to see a psych for myself as I need new coping mechanisms and think I may have some anxiety issues at play.

    I haven't had her hearing checked but her speech is really good and she always hears noises I can't hear and asks me what was that noise, but something to keep in mind

    Quote Originally Posted by Blessedwith3boys View Post
    My advice is to see a child psychologist. We did this at one point to help with ds1's behaviour. It was a really positive experience and things improved dramatically with some good advice and a parenting dvd to watch.
    How did you choose a psych? Referral from a GP or paed?

    I think maybe our paed will be first port of call as she has allergies and CMPI and her diet is shocking - eating is another daily battle, so maybe he might have some advice re: her health before helping us with a child psych. I actually think there may be one in the centre where he practices.

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    I haven't any direct experience but was going to suggest a psychologist who specializes in child and family support. I did a quick Google search of 'child and family psychologist adelaide' and a few specific Practices came up so you could read about a few and see if any seem to click for you then ask to see if anyone has used them?
    Adelaide Paediatrics is a big clinic with paeds and allied health professionals if you have a look at their website they have several specialist psychologists who might suit (not sure if too child focused rather than parenting/family support - worth asking the question though) and could potentially help with food issues too (each one lists their area of specialty), they also have Paediatric dietitians. All the best @A-Squared I hope you find the right support for your family.

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    So last night I was going through a cupboard and came across a copy of toddler taming that my mum have me.

    Reading it was like reading a book written specifically about my DD. I was amazed and how he talked about meltdown triggers and how she fit into them!

    It was prefaced by this amazing part that struck a chord with me.....Attachment 77251

    I usually go with option 1 which seems to be my main problem.

    So I definitely need to work on myself before I can hope for anything to change with DD.


 

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