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    Default Parenting 'coaching'

    Does anyone know of any services like parenting coaching.

    I want to see someone who can work with our family on discipline and assisting our family dynamic. At the moment DD is really defiant but really emotional as I think she's struggling with no longer being an only child.

    This in turn is taking a toll on me mentally and my relationship with her and with my DH. I'm just miserable and get angry at her and withdrawn from DH.

    I need someone who can look at us as a family unit and help us come up with a plan on fixing things.

    Kind of like a supernanny really is what I'm after.

    I don't want a generic broad brush parenting course, I need advice and assistance to suit our family's 'individual' needs.

    Or do I just need to see an counsellor with experience assisting parents with parenting?

    Any recommendations greatly appreciated. I'm starting to lose my mind! I'm miserable

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    Hugs. I dont know any. Just sending good wishes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by A-Squared View Post
    Does anyone know of any services like parenting coaching.

    I want to see someone who can work with our family on discipline and assisting our family dynamic. At the moment DD is really defiant but really emotional as I think she's struggling with no longer being an only child.

    This in turn is taking a toll on me mentally and my relationship with her and with my DH. I'm just miserable and get angry at her and withdrawn from DH.

    I need someone who can look at us as a family unit and help us come up with a plan on fixing things.

    Kind of like a supernanny really is what I'm after.

    I don't want a generic broad brush parenting course, I need advice and assistance to suit our family's 'individual' needs.

    Or do I just need to see an counsellor with experience assisting parents with parenting?

    Any recommendations greatly appreciated. I'm starting to lose my mind! I'm miserable
    There are specific counsellors. Which city are you in?

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    We saw a phycologist in Brisbane who specialises in the Triple P Parenting program. They did do a group course but rather than do the course we went with a private appointment to discuss what we wanted to address and he counselled how we should deal with things. I had already read the book and was aware of the parenting style/technique but it was fabulous to go with my husband and get advise given so we were on the same page with the way we approached things and we were able to give specific incidents to get advice on. I noticed your not in Brisbane but I think there would be something similar in other states. Hope that helps 😉

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    Up here we saw a behaviour specialist recommended by our paediatrician. She was covered on the mental health care plan too so bulk billed.
    Perhaps you can find something similar where you are?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    There are specific counsellors. Which city are you in?
    I'm in Adelaide

    Quote Originally Posted by Lovejoypeace View Post
    We saw a phycologist in Brisbane who specialises in the Triple P Parenting program. They did do a group course but rather than do the course we went with a private appointment to discuss what we wanted to address and he counselled how we should deal with things. I had already read the book and was aware of the parenting style/technique but it was fabulous to go with my husband and get advise given so we were on the same page with the way we approached things and we were able to give specific incidents to get advice on. I noticed your not in Brisbane but I think there would be something similar in other states. Hope that helps 😉
    Thank you. I looked into Triple P parenting but all of the official group course are only offered in the Eastern States. What is the book called?

    I'm also keen on finding out why DD behaves the way she does, in order to best know how to deal with it. So could a paediatrician help as a first port of call?

    A bit more background... she just wants everything her way all the time and has a meltdown whenever it doesn't happen, being strict with her (sticking to our guns about the rules we have in place and the consequences we warn her about) makes her more upset and hysterical, but on the flip side letting things go or even 'bribing her' with use if the iPad or food treats so she behaves or do what we ask, just seems to encourage her behaviour.

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    How old is she?

    Maybe a paed would help but could be costly with no real outcome? Unless you're concerned something medical is going on.

    One thing we started with DD was a visual diary of our plans. This seemed to help the meltdowns and tantrums we were getting.
    I would show her our plans for the morning. ..and then when she got cranky about something. .eg...wanting to play outside, I would show her the picture and we're playing inside.
    I used photos of her doing her daily stuff. .
    Eg...eating, playing, sleeping, bath. .tv time etc.

    You could try something like that.

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    I'd ask both your GP and your child health nurse. I knew some ones in Melbourne (hence my question).

    They do exist it can be harder to find them when you don't live in one of the eastern states.

    My youngest is 2 and boy she is hard work. Constant tantrums and shouting to get attention over the others. It's different but yeah I feel your pain.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tamtam View Post
    How old is she?

    Maybe a paed would help but could be costly with no real outcome? Unless you're concerned something medical is going on.

    One thing we started with DD was a visual diary of our plans. This seemed to help the meltdowns and tantrums we were getting.
    I would show her our plans for the morning. ..and then when she got cranky about something. .eg...wanting to play outside, I would show her the picture and we're playing inside.
    I used photos of her doing her daily stuff. .
    Eg...eating, playing, sleeping, bath. .tv time etc.

    You could try something like that.
    She will be 4 at the start of March. This is why I'm worried about her behaviour. She doesn't seem capable of rationalising her thoughts or managing her feelings at all. I know she's not been on this earth all that long, and I know I shouldn't compare, but other kids I'm around on a regular basis all seem to have all bug outgrown this stage.

    I do think the daily routine with images might help. Especially if I can clearly show the times she will get my undivided attention and when DS will as well (and when I need time to do chores and maybe have a quiet cuppa!)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    I'd ask both your GP and your child health nurse. I knew some ones in Melbourne (hence my question).

    They do exist it can be harder to find them when you don't live in one of the eastern states.

    My youngest is 2 and boy she is hard work. Constant tantrums and shouting to get attention over the others. It's different but yeah I feel your pain.
    It's painful isn't it!!?


 

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