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    Default relationship advice, single parent..am i too stupid

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    Sorry to be blunt but it seems to me you are definitely wasting your time with him. You seem like a stop gap to him. Not a permanent partner.

    Delete his contact details and try and move on. He's made it clear you have no future together. Sorry but I think you deserve better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    Sorry to be blunt but it seems to me you are definitely wasting your time with him. You seem like a stop gap to him. Not a permanent partner.

    Delete his contact details and try and move on. He's made it clear you have no future together. Sorry but I think you deserve better.
    Yep I agree!

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    Honestly, this relationship sounds so messy and while you say he is the one for you, I don't see anything in what you've written that shows that. He sounds incredibly confused and is going down a completely different life path to you. If he's not ready to settle down, there is nothing you can do to stop that.

    You need to take this guy off the pedestal you've put him on and see him for who he is.

    Don't waste your life making someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

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    Sounds awful and confusing. I think he's told his family about you and they aren't happy and have gotten involved, probably to the point of texting you.

    I'd distance myself completely. If he wanted to be with you, he'd find a way. It will be hard but let him go.

    I'm so sorry hun x

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    I'm not a single parent, hope you don't mind me responding.

    I suspect after spending time with his family in his home country (and possibly being influenced by his family members) that he's decided it's not going to work between the two of you.

    I know this must be really hurtful and confusing for you, and clearly you have strong feelings for this Frank, but I think he's sending you clear messages that he isn't committed to you and the relationship. I also think the text message he sent you was unnecessarily brutal and rude.

    I would suggest setting him free and see what happens. If you stop chasing, he might come back to you with some sort of communication - maybe something that will give you some closure to help in moving forward?

    I think you deserve someone who is sure about your relationship and dedicated to being with you. Don't wait around for Frank to become this person, because it's likely he never will.

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    What Sonja said. Sorry.

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    I agree with previous posts, he just isn't that into you.

    Don't waste your time and emotions on someone who clearly doesn't feel the same way. Life is far to short.

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    I'm sorry you're so upset and also confused.
    This man's treatment of you is appalling. Who sends horrible messages like that to someone they care about?
    Please follow Sonja's advice and delete his contact details.
    When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
    I don't think he's sending mixed messages. He has clearly said he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. Believe him.
    Take some time to grieve the relationship, be kind and gentle with yourself and then move on.

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    If someone treated me like that I would cut them off and move on.

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