My dd was the same. I left the door open with the bathroom light on. She still wouldn't sleep until I put a lamp in her room. It is on the floor at the foot of her bed, and is brighter than a night light. Way brighter than I could have it to sleep, but it works for her.
I can sympathise as my DS is going through a similar phase at the moment. He turned 3 in November and he has been waking at night saying he's too scared to sleep in his bed. He was previously in a toddler bed but got a loft bed for Christmas. Last night he came in twice and took a while to settle back to his bed each time. This morning he told me he heard a noise and that's why he was scared (5 yo DD did not help the situation when she mentioned that it was probably a ghost ).
Can your DS tell you what he is afraid of? Can you give him a torch or battery operated night light that he can turn on if he is feeling scared? With both our kids (DD is very anxious at times), they know that they can always come in to get us if they are feeling afraid, but that there are a few things they could/should try first - e.g. giving their teddies a big cuddle, counting to 20 slowly with their eyes closed, turning on their night lights/torches. They should also think about how scared they are (yellow is "just a bit", orange is "medium" and red is "really really scared"). If they are 'just' yellow, then they know to try other techniques first.
Also, although they have their own comforters, they can also come in an ask for "mummy's" toy (which I bought specifically for this reason!) - my toy is a baby hedgehog that needs someone who is kind, gentle and brave to sleep with and look after her. She loves cuddling but needs someone who will stay in bed to help look after her. Both kids love being her comforter/protector and are so proud of themselves for looking after mummy's toy. Perhaps something like this would work?
As a last resort I would try putting a mattress in his room for you to sleep on for a while - a new baby is a big change and he might be feeling anxious about it all. Especially with a change out of a cot and baby sleeping in with you.
The first night he kept pointing to the window. There were 2 possums fighting over our back fence making those growling noises. It's happened before though and he's always been fine. I think it's got alot to do with the new bub. When he was still in the cot he was fine so maybe he's missing the security of the cot.
He doesn't really say what's wrong just keeps cuddling up to me or dh and saying no when we say time to get into your bed.
This is the lights we have up in his room. It's daylight outside so not the best pic but you get the idea. There are fresh batteries in there too so it's a bit bright
I went through this with my DS too. I found a night light helped and music. I have an oricom monitor with a night light and music player that I can set the timer on. DS gets 15 mins of music and can put it back on if he wants it. This all started happening after DD was about 2-3mo, music made all the difference. We now have the whole other issue of him needing me...not DH, to lay with him to sleep since removing the dummy. He is now 2.5 yo, so started around 2yo.
I'm going to pick up a light projector thing with music this afternoon and give it a go. Lastnight we had to take ds2 to the hospital and ds1 wouldn't let me leave without him, he had a major meltdown. I've noticed when he's overtired he only wants me. So we didn't get home til close to 11. As we were leavingthe hospital ds1 tripped over and skinned his knee. Kid hates blood it freaks him out. So cue another meltdown. He cried all the way home. Those fake tearless cries, know what i mean? Once home it took me 45 mins to calm him down and we caved and let him sleep in the bed with us. There was no way we could fight him lastnight he was just too hysterical and too tired.
I know we def made a mistake letting him sleep in our bed in the first place, it's going to take some major undoing.
It sounds like he's really looking for some comfort and security from you at the moment. I hope your DS2 is okay!
I'd put a mattress on the flood and get DH to sleep in his room, we did this with DD and it lasted about 2 weeks and then she was fine to sleep on her own, she now sleeps in her own room in her own bed through the night. She was just scared of something and needed the reassurance.
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