I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy (8 weeks). I grieved a lot for about 3 weeks, then I fell pregnant again but even after that I was sad as I wanted my original baby back instead of the new one I was carrying. By about 4-5 months I had accepted my new pregnancy and all was well, I have not grieved my miscarriage much since.
My mother has 2 daughters and has had one miscarriage in between (14 weeks gestation) She has also had at least 5 terminations because she was single at the time and did not use protection.
When I had my first child she came to hospital and stated crying because she had a miscarriage back in the day.
Now I am pregnant again and she is again getting teary about her miscarriage.
I don't feel much sympathy for her however because of all the terminations she had before and after her miscarriage.
The problem is the baby's gender, I am having all boys and she has all girls and she lost a boy back then.
I am due to have this baby next month and I don't think I can handle her coming into the hospital and crying into my baby again because he is a boy and she never got a boy.
Can someone please help me out there, is there something I am not saying to her that could bring her closure? I don't have must time or energy to be helping her emotional state but I want her to calm down and just move on.