I have always used this
To be honest I find that sometimes in store they will try to convince you you're a size you're not if they don't stock much or anything in your actual size.
Maybe YouTube some clips on bra fittings as well so she can see how a bra should look when it's well fitted. Then you can go with her to choose some and she can try them on by herself.
My mom just used a tape measure to figure out how big I was around and then we worked out cup size from there.
I agree with PP, I am a larger cup size &smaller back, & whenever I am fitted & the person realises they dont stock any bras in my size, they always try to force me to buy something a cup size smaller & back size larger. So annoying! It never fits right. I just measure myself now, there are heaps of online guides, & its not really rocket science,I know my correct fit by now. Perhaps teaching her correct fit, by looking online, would help so she can do it herself?
DDis wearing the same bonds crop tops, also 11yrs, but not quiet ready for a bra.
When the time comes I'll just do what my mum did, buy a few bras and try them at home, ( I remember I refused to even go to the shop let alone try them at the shops.)
I don't think an 11-12 year old needs to get fitted, esp if it's freaking her out.
why not just buy a couple of cheap A cup bras and she can try on at home to see what fits? or you could help her/check how they fit after she's put them on.
it's such an awkward time and I don't really think there's any need to go over the top and force the issue by insisting on a proper fitting.
once she's a big bigger, you could suggest it again. but wait til she's more ready and comfortable with her body first.
I've only been fitted once in my life, I was shocked to discover I'm a D cup. so yes I think it definitely pays to get fitted at some stage but wait til she's ready first.
Last edited by turquoisecoast; 03-01-2016 at 07:21.
Hi, if she doesn't want to be fitted by a stranger, would she be comfortable with you taking her measurements?
Otherwise what if you took her into target or similar place & tried a few different sizes on? Then she can have a look & see which types she would like to wear. Or if she doesn't want to do that what if you bought a few different sizes & she was able to try them on at home? Then you could exchange the ones that didn't fit.
I would have a chat to her & do whatever makes her the most comfortable & go from there. If she doesn't want to get fitted I wouldn't take her until she's wanting to go/comfortable.
Hi ladies.. I'm 20 and due to upbringing never got fitted for a bra until I was around 16.. Which, in my case (started growing at 10) was petty much when I stopped growing, until I got pregnant.. 😀 ❤️❤️
Is she too embarrassed to let you see/talk her through how a bra SHOULD fit..? Everywhere lets you try before you buy and until she is older to loose some embarrassment or gain some understanding of how important the right bra is, which hopefully won't take too long, you could talk her through it.. Take a few bras into the fitting rooms and spend some time trying them.. I was really embarrassed when I got fitted, until it actually happened and I realised that they do it all day everyday and see that many pairs of breasts that it's just like filling out paperwork...
Hope this helps..
Mine just wore bonds crop tops at that age - exactly the same as the ones you have linked. Plus they also quite like this style:
My girls have never needed an actual bra until they got to highschool, but they take after me in that respect. In terms of when to change from a croptop to an actual bra, mine changed when they the crop tops weren't really comfortable anymore and they needed more support plus they noticed their friends had changed. ie they started whinging to me.
I have never found any decent first bras in KMart or Big W.
Target used to have an okayish first bra but they have changed the design since I first bought them so I don't know how good they are now. The reason I like the Target ones is because they come in very small sizes eg they start at an 8AA, but I think the 8s also come in larger cup sizes as well.
Link to the Target ones:
My older DD then moved onto and is still wearing the Loveable wirefree bras. We got them from Myer:
In terms of being fitted, my 15 year old DD was very self conscious. Over time, I have talked her into letting me into having a quick look to see if the fit is okay. The bras I have linked above are the only bras that we have found fit her well. As she has grown she has had to go up a band or cup size. It's been pretty obvious (to me) if the size she was wearing was incorrect.
Last edited by SSecret Squirrel; 03-01-2016 at 08:56.
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