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    Thanks so much for your guidance it's hard either way.

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    Default Is fallling out of love a valid reason to seperate??

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    Loving someone (I believe) is a choice. Marriage is hard work and throughout the years your relationship changes. ..there will be times when you feel in love and connected and others when you're not.
    Honestly. ..I don't think emotions should run our major life choices. You can reconnect..it just takes effort and time.

    In terms of your question...is it valid? Well. .. if I'm honest. ..from my perspective I don't think so. If everything is good in the relationship then why not try to fix it? Seems like it would be worth saving.
    I disagree. Love isn't a choice. Sure you can make choices that help you reconnect with someone but bottom line you can't force yourself to love someone.

    How do you know the OP can reconnect with her partner? If both people have grown in different directions maybe they can't get the love back.

    I think I get where you are coming from in advising against emotions shouldn't run our major life decisions - We should make major decisions while we are feeling emotional? I can't imagine recommending someone make a choice about their life partner based all on practicalities and not emotion - what a recipe for a boring unfulfilling life that would be.
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    OP it can be a valid reason to separate. I love Dr Phil's advice - when kids are involved parents haven't earned the right to separate until they have been to counsellIng.

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    I think it is a valid reason.


 

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