Firstly, I genuinely need help and advice here, I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad or weird, I'm asking on here as most people I know don't have my problem.. So, if you can help me, then please do...
Here's the thing, I'm too skinny. Like really skinny. I'm 170cms tall and I weigh just under 43kgs. I'm the skinniest 35 year old I've ever met. (And I have two kids, they're 3 and 5. Not sure if that makes any difference at all.)
However, I feel great, I feel really healthy, I have lots of energy, af is arriving each month, I'm really enjoying summer and swimming and had a big Christmas of eating and drinking, but somehow managed to lose a kilo!!! I was told today that I look like someone stuck a vacuum cleaner up me and sucked out all the fat and moisture. I was a bit shocked, but I looked in the mirror, and he's right. That's how I look. I weighed myself and was shocked to be under 43kgs. I was also told I look unhealthy. And asked if I'm really ok. (I think the implication was that I must have an illness that I'm not telling anyone about!)
I don't have any idea how to gain weight. I wake up starving, so I eat, normally toast with real butter and ham or eggs. If I don't have the protein then I'm still starving. I eat lunch, like leftover dinner food, a sandwich with ham or chicken or whatever and salad, and I eat dinner, normally meat, fish or chicken with a serve of potato or rice and veggies.. I don't have a sweet tooth so I rarely eat dessert of any kind. But today I did have some yoghurt about 11am.
What do I do to gain some weight? I currently shop for my clothes in the kids section, though I did buy a skirt from the grown up section of target today, in a size 4, from the Danni Minogue petite range.
I know my problem is first world, and most people would kill to have my problem, I am fully aware of that, but where am I going wrong?! I eat protein, often at all 3 meals! I eat until I'm full, but stop when I'm done, I can't just force feed myself more food, though I believe I'm eating normal adult size portions already. I eat full cream dairy.
In the past, I've been able to gain some weight, a couple of kilos here and there, but as soon as I stop consciously eating extra, the weight just falls off again.
I think I'd like to gain about 3 kgs in the next little while, and be able to keep the weight on.
Should I lift weights?
If I eat more, then what, specifically?
Does anyone have any ideas?