There are others who may not feel this way and I have friends who simply couldn't sleep with babies in the room. Each to their own at the end of the day.
One thing I know for 100%.. Things change when Bub actually arrives and preconceived ideas often end up in the bin. I was dead against co sleeping and at 6mths here we are lol.
OP will know what to do 😊 @blondinBrisvegas, @ScubaGal and I are just coming from a place of 'what would the child feel?' And SIDS guidelines.
Do what works for you and your situation. Our first we co-slept out of necessity (tiny 1 bedroom apartment) and it was horrible. I swore never again. Our second went straight into her own room from day 1 and that worked for us. Our 3rd again was in our room in a bassinet for a bit and again was horrible for all of us. Our fourth however was in our room for about 2.5 months and we had no problems with that.
Do what you are comfortable with. What works for some won't work for all. Its a personal choice- as with most things parenting related. If you want baby in your room, great. If you don't, that's great too.
My almost 18mo dd is still in our room because that works for us. If you can find a way to follow the sids guidelines then I always think that's worth doing. If that doesn't end up working for your family then I would suggest putting other measures in place to minimise sids risks. Maybe consider one of those breathing monitor pads? Ensure the room temp is right, bedding is safe, etc.
Our house when we had DD1 and DD2 had a tiny main bedroom. Apart from our bed and one tiny chest of drawers there was no room for anything other than a crib. So we had our babies in as long as we could then had to move them when they reached around 12 weeks as it was no longer safe or possible to continue to have them sleep in the same room.
Their rooms were about 2 to 3 steps from our bedroom. We had monitors and checked on them overnight. They were also terrible sleepers and as I breastfed on demand I was up feeding constantly until they were 12 months old.
So I take offence at the thought anything I did was negligent. I was informed and made my decisions according to safety and logistics.
Yes they are more than JUST guidelines but to say parents are cruel or negligent to go against those guidelines for what are for them considered judgments is not fair no matter how much people caveat it by saying it's just "their opinion".
We had DS in our room for first 7 weeks. Husband goes to the loo a few times a night and walks around like a giant elephant so would keep waking bub up!
Next bub I will get a cheap single mattress and camp out in bub's room for 6 months.
Both DD (now 2.5) and DS (1 month) have been in their own rooms since birth. DS room also has a single bed so I can sleep in there if I want to. I liked the idea of having them in our room but in reality it has worked out better for all of us having them in their own rooms.
Hmmm...nor is it "fair" to not-so-subtly attempt to try to prove in that condescending way of yours that I'm some kind of a hypocrite for not BF my DD (another SIDS guideline) on the one hand then saying not following the SIDS sleeping guidelines is negligent on another.
For some reason before hitting the "reply" button, you failed to see my previous post where I did say I BF my DD (as per the SIDS guidelines) until 6 weeks but couldn't continue due to supply issues thus your not so clever plan to "show me up" failed spectacularly!!!
Everything about that post was offensive to me, so I'd call us even.
I read your follow up posts and they didn't clarify anything.
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