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    Default My mum is not looking after herself

    Sorry if this is the wrong spot.

    I'm really concerned about my mum. Shes in her 60s and is basically not eating.

    For the last 6 or so months she has not been eating. She doesn't eat breakfast, no lunch and a lot of the time no dinner either. She is drinking coffee all day and will eat crackers and icecream. Shes lost a lot of weight.

    A couple of months ago she collapsed at work and ended up in the hospital. Low blood pressure apparently but she never said anything about her diet to them.

    She will eat when she comes to our place or to my brother place or if she goes out but not when shes on her own.

    The most concerning thing about the whole thing and the ting that is really ringing alarm bells for me is she is constantly saying she doesn't want to get fat so she doesn't want to eat. She becoming more and more worried about gaining weight and that's the reason she wont eat. I feel like this is turning into an eating disorder.

    She just says she not hungry which is why shes not eating. Shes still active, walks to work every day and then in the evenings too.

    She wont go to the doctors, and even if I make her go she will just say everything is find and she feels great.

    I'm really worried and don't know what to do.

    Any advice??

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    Yeah I'd be really worried about that too... Sometimes extreme diets are linked to worrying about mortality, there are some nutty theories that calorie restriction can lead to living longer...

    Alternatively it could be a standard sort of eating disorder or depression/anxiety ... It can also be a form of self harm. Either way it sounds like you've got to try to help. Are there other family members you can check in with to see if they can shed any light? Any friends she talks to?

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    If you know who her gp is you can make an appointment and discuss your concerns about your mum with them, but of course they won't be able to discuss their knowledge or observations of her. Then you just have to get her to the gp which doesn't sound easy.

    I hope you are able to get her some help.

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    my mother would eat with company, but not eat much on her own. she would not feel like cooking just for herself. is there anyway you can arrange some regular visits with you or other family members, so that she will have company. my mum would have one or two older grandchildren stay with her for a little while, and she would be so happy to have someone to share the meal with. perhaps ask her why she isn't eating? and just work with her from that point. hugs, marie.

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    Is your mum OK in other ways, like it's she taking care of her appearance, personal hygiene, relationships etc? Does she seem depressed?


 

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