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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveLivesHere View Post
    I would have done exactly what you did. There is no way on earth that was acceptable.

    Think of it this way. If you had let him stay. What message would have that said to your son. What message would it have said to your bil.

    Now think of message you did send your son (I have your back no matter who tries to hurt you)
    And bil (don't mess with my kid)

    It sad that your sister was in the middle but in the long run you have done the very best thing you could.

    I am sorry you were put in that position.
    And that's why I asked him to leave, I never want DS to feel scared of anyone , especially in his own home - DS was fine this morning, didn't mention it and I don't really want to dwell on it , I'm thinking just not to bring it up again or should I talk to him about it or just let it be ?

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    Let it be

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    Let it be unless he brings it up

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    You absolutely did the right thing Luv IMO. BIL...a grown adult using bullying/intimidation & fear on a 5 yr old child (or any child for that matter) is totally & utterly unacceptable.

    I would've done exactly the same thing. Furthermore, he wouldn't be welcome back in my house until he apologised & adjusted his attitude!! What an A/Hole!!!!!!

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    I wouldn't mention it again but I would be wary around BIL for a while because his response was inappropriately aggressive and that would concern me.

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    Your reaction was warranted - a grown man threatening a 5 year old? Not on

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    My gosh! What a horrible man!

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    I would have reacted the same way.
    No one threatens my children!!

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    I actually think asking him to leave is about the most polite and restrained thing you could do given the circumstances.

    Any other response that I can think of (threaten him back eg "talk to my child like that again and I will do xyz" / ripping into him) would mean stooping to his level.

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    The parental instict to protect often kicks in on occasions such as this.

    What if we had been the other parent and no discipline had been given to the child throwing the punch (or we had moswd the discipline being given )

    Surely some of us outraged at the response would have reponded and some of us may not have responded in a way approved by the masses here.

    I think from what is written the op responded in an understandable manner.

    Change circumstances, age, even sex and we could get much different responses from eah one of us here.

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