My son is the same. I made peace with it and it's my down time. I don't have other kids so it's easier. He's 4.5 so I don't have any answers. He's never fallen asleep without me laying beside him. It's at least 1.5 hours each night
My 2yo is the same. Last night was nearly two hours. I'm a solo parent and have a 4yo too, who I can only start getting to sleep after the 2yo.
I called it after last night. Enough is enough. I can't waste 3+hours in the evening.
Tonight I put them both to bed then said I would be back in a minute. I had earlier explained she's a big girl now and needs to put herself to sleep. Each time I left she grizzled. I would wait a minute then go back and give her a cuddle and pop her back into bed (she kept hopping out). Then I would stand next to her bed and stroke her head for a minute, then say mummy will be back in a minute.
I started later to make sure she was tired. Took about half an hour. I'm hoping over time she will learn mummy comes back and not cry. I will keep you updated!
Does she have a toy or blanket she can cuddle instead of you?
I bought dd2 a care bear from the OP shop just after she turned 2, she loves him so much, she now tucks him in then cuddles him to sleep. She also has her blankies as well.
Eta: she still procrastinates and faffs around in the evenings but I don't need to stay with her when she falls asleep
Last edited by Little Miss Sunshine; 24-12-2015 at 21:15.
I have an almost 4 year old that has never gone to sleep by himself, normally takes us about an hour to get him down. We have just discovered "dinosnores" it's like a story being read over relaxing music. You can listen for free on spotify. They have dragon, dinosaur, mermaid and fairy stories. We are getting our boy down in about 10 minutes with this! Worth a try! Also we did have him on melatonin for a while. That works so well!
My mum used to have this issue with my brother. She took a two pronged approach. She had a timer (I think she used a couple of nursery rhymes) for night time cuddles. Then she'd go to the loo, back in a minute; just need to let the cat out, back in a minute; just need to go into the kitchen, back in a minute; etc, and over time she would make each journey out of the room a longer one. He was a champion sleeper after that.
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