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    Default Toddler sleep nightmare

    I'm in need of some ideas.
    I'm at my wits end.
    My (just) 2yr old has always been a terrible sleeper.
    I'm a single parent with 100% care.
    When my mum puts her down for a sleep, no problems, if she has a sleep when spending time with her dad, no problems but me trying to get her down?! Massive dramas.
    Every nap (unless she's in the car) and every evening is a nightmare that can take up 1.5hrs and usually ends in me losing my sh*t and yelling and her crying.
    She always tired when I try and put her down (but not over tired)but she just keeps mucking up. She wants another story, she wants a drink, she wants to hold my hand. She's up, she's down, arms up, bum up, sitting up, playing with teddy, legs up on the wall. Drama drama drama.
    I lose my mind, yell, storm out, she cries, I go back in she lies in bed for a second and then starts all over again.
    I can't leave until she falls asleep otherwise the water works start again.
    What do I do? I'm so over it being such a bunfight every night trying to get her to sleep.

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    My DD who is also 2 is the same! I'm having some success with telling her I will lay down with her if she is still and quiet. When she starts mucking about I giver her a warning/ count to three and if she doesn't settle down I leave the room. She calls out and I usually leave her for a few minutes then go in give her a hug and say the same thing.

    I've been doing it for about 2 weeks now and bed time has gone from 1.5hrs to 40min so I'm super happy. Hoping it might get even better. Plus I find walking away for 2-5min gives me a chance to compose myself as well.

    Good luck.

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    Thanks @innerhippy
    That's what I've been doing this week.
    I'll have to keep it up.

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    My DS at almost 3 does thia with me. I lie down and pretend to sleep and ignore him. It does not stop him but I use it to get off my feet (use earphones and listen to music).

    I have water, sheets, pillows etc in reach and tell him to get it himself. He still takes forever but I am less stressed. Sorry I have no ideas.

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    i had my first like this and did almost lose my mind (single parent, ex didnt have a stable home so had very little contact with him at that stage), second one started to go hell so I put a gate up and walked out, he still cries sometimes but I go in, settle and leave and hes okay most of the time, currently all over the shop thanks to molars and christmas stuff but he's better then he was

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    Does your DD need you in the room? Or do you say goodnight and then leave her for a bit?

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    Quote Originally Posted by twinklify View Post
    Does your DD need you in the room? Or do you say goodnight and then leave her for a bit?
    I can't leave, she loses it.
    I can't leave her to CIO. I left her carry on for a few minutes while I compose myself but I can't bring myself to leave her to wail until she falls asleep.
    My mum says I should leave her to it and she will soon learn.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpecialK View Post
    I can't leave, she loses it.
    I can't leave her to CIO. I left her carry on for a few minutes while I compose myself but I can't bring myself to leave her to wail until she falls asleep.
    My mum says I should leave her to it and she will soon learn.
    My DS loses it too so I understand you. I also cannot leave him to CIO. Its so hard.

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    I'm so over it. I've just lost it and made her cry but I'm so frustrated that every freaking night I have such a struggle on my hands.

    She tired. She's now overtired as I've been trying for an hour to get her down.

    Why is it so hard to go to sleep?


 

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