I'm asking this on behalf of my mum as she's asked me what to do and I don't know what to tell her. Any advice would be appreciated. Apologies in advance as its a long one.
We have a family dinner once a week at my parents place. This is just my parents and sibling and siblings family.
Earlier this year my mum invited one of our cousins and his wife to one of these family dinners. It was meant to be a one off. They made a comment that they loved being invited to mums place as the food is so good and my mum being a people pleaser said something to the effect of 'you're welcome anytime'. Well they've taken her at her word and have shown up every week since.
Mum doesn't now know what to do. It's not that she doesn't like the cousin but she's missing having just her children and grandchildren over for dinner. It's the only time we all see each other together and she feels like instead of just relaxing and playing with the kids she has to 'host'. Also having two extra adults means not enough space at the dinner table so she has to set up a separate kids table. Basically it turns into more of a dinner party.
Also my cousin has very specific dietary requirements (many allergies) so cooking is not as easy as it would usually be for just us.
Now obviously this is her fault as she shouldn't have extended the open invite in the first place if she didn't mean it and then she should've put a stop to it earlier if it wasn't working for her; but as I said mum is a people pleaser and doesn't know how to say no. But now it's getting to her and she's made snippy comments to me about when will she be able to just have a simple family dinner again. I don't know what to tell her. She can't exactly uninvite them now can she? Wwyd?