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    Default What has your relationship endured?

    I have been contemplating starting this thread for quite a few weeks but am always scared of how it will turn out. I want this to be a safe place, empowering if you will, for anyone to share what tough times your relationship has endured/survived. I am currently going through a really hard time in my relationship and I often wonder what have other people gotten through in their own relationships? It's always easy for people to judge and tell you what to do when they aren't in the situation themselves, but when it happens to you all of that goes out the window. I never thought I'd be where I am right now. My DP has made some really bad choices which has brought us to this point. I wonder if anyone else has been in this place before and made it through to the other side.

    Please don't turn this into a catty, judgemental thread. I genuinely would love to know what your relationships have gone through and survived.

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    Gracie's Mum, I don't think we've been through any acute or major kind of crises in our relationship as such. No doubt there will come somekind of crisis point though. We haven't had sex for 18 months, since we conceived my DD. My partner is emotionally avoidant and this is reflected in his inability/avoidance of emotionally intimate and sexual relationship with me. He's happy to whack off to porn though, apparently. There are aspects of our relationship that are great too though.

    Great idea for a thread. I hope people respect your request for a safe and non-judgemental space.

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    We have been through some tough times. Some where we both (at different times) thought it was better not to be together.
    We persevered and most of the time it's better than ever. Some things I thought I would never condone in a million years ..... But I guess it's one of those things that you can't judge until you're in that situation you know. Feel free to pm me if you want. I hope you're okay 💕

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    Default What has your relationship endured?

    My marriage has been through a lot Whilst I don't have a great marriage in the physical sense we have sought counselling recently and it's been invaluable. A lot has changed with my H changing jobs and being home more and I am in a better place mental health wise myself.

    I hope you and your H can work through things xx
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    You ladies have brought tears to my eyes. Finally I feel some peace knowing that not everyone has these picture perfect relationships that we are bombarded with daily by social media! That people can work through their problems and move forward. That not everything is as it seems for everyone. We all make mistakes, we all grow. This is so refreshing and exactly what I need right now since I am feeling so desperate and sad.

    I am building up the courage to write my story. It will be a long one. Thank you for the support and the kindness, it means so much.

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    My partner and I have been through a bit. Our relationship is rocky a lot of the time but that's probably due to my insecurities and my problems. I do see a councellor to work through my issues. A lot of mine come from my childhood. My partner is a lovely man, and has been an awesome stepdad to my two daughters from a previous marriage. We were actually living apart when I found out we are expecting. I am 28 weeks now, and things are probably the best they have been in the whole two years we have been together. We are both from broken homes, and don't want this baby to grow up in that environment. I do love him very much and I know he loves me, but I have pushed him away many times, he told me if I push him away again he will probably not want to try again, so that made me get councelling to sort my sh!t out. My partner isn't perfect, he has plenty of flaws, but mine affect our relationship a lot more. So @Gracie's Mum please don't feel that you are alone. I think every relationship has their own battles.

    At the end of the day, my DP is my best mate and he has helped me out so much and inspires me to be a better person hence why I want to sort out my inner issues. I was over weight when we first met and he still thinks I am beautiful but I have trouble seeing it myself. Once this baby is born, I want to lose a lot of weight to get to a healthy weight, so I can feel beautiful with in myself and pass that onto my daughters. At the moment, they see a mum with low self esteem and the councelling is helping me fix that.
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