Ok I'm rehashing this thread because friend in question has really hurt me today so I'm done.
I saw her at xmas - all ok. Superficial but ok.
My dog died last night very suddenly. He was almost 12. She is MASSIVE dog lover. I texted her to tell her and 2hrs later I get this response: 'poor xyz'. No I'm sorry, no wtf happened (he wasn't sick), nothing. Considering she treats her own dog like a proper fur-child and her dog is her life this is so freaking callous.
So I don't know if I should just never contact her again. Or send her a text along the lines of 'clearly our friendship has deteriorated since the birth of my DD which is sad but let's just leave it here, I wish you happiness in the future.'