Wow, just wow. Today my husband went to work with three big baskets of goodies that I put together for his female staff ($100 Lush products, Dusk candle, a book (targeted to their interests), wine, biscuits and chocolates all done up in a hamper with ribbons etc.
Then he took his bookkeeper aside and advised her on bonuses for all his staff from $500 up to $2000 each - she got $2K. One of the other ladies didn't get a bonus, and the bookkeeper asked why not, and my DH replied that he's already organised with her in lieu of a bonus, a payrise next year. Which of course the bookkeeper would have been told about in the new year anyway as she does the pays up.
So instead of being grateful for a really nice gift and a $2K bonus, she starts hounding my DH about why the other girl gets a pay rise and she doesn't. She has had a pay rise already this year and is on a really good wage, and her job is TOTALLY different to the other girl who is a qualified engineer, so there is no comparison.
In the end the bookkeeper lost it and started crying and walked out - my DH had to leave to go to a meeting and he was that angry and upset. Even though the bookkeeper has to do the pays so knows everyone's wage, surely it is none of her business what pay anyone else is on? If she feels underpaid then surely she should ask for a raise, not compare herself to a totally different class of job and pay rate?
DH looks after all his staff really, really well - he expects a lot, but he gives a lot back. He said he feels like going back into the office and tearing up all the bonus slips and they can all get stuffed.
Where is the gratitude?