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    Ok, this is long, but I'd love to know what you all think. I'd also love it if we could forget this is about my ex and treat it as a hypothetical situation...

    Essentially, FOB has lived in my mother's house rent free since 2009. I lived there for about a year after DS was born.

    In October, my mum decided to sell her house, and basically gave FOB 3 weeks notice to leave. He knew she was thinking of selling, and she had agreed to give him at least three months notice, but my mum...well, that's a whole other thread. This has led to lots of tension between all three of us and I feel caught up in the middle of everything.

    The latest is that apparently there was a rates bill due on December 1st. Mum is asking who's paying it and I know she'll be a martyr about it (settlement for her place is mid-Jan so she'll get most of it back).

    FOB thinks because he was booted out he isn't responsible for bills that are paid in advance if that makes sense. I know mum will say she let him live there rent free so he should pay. But given she'll be getting most of the money back that doesn't seem right.

    I actually agree with FOB on this one, but this is mainly because she broke the agreement they had in writing about giving him enough notice.

    I think I'll suggest we each go thirds, but that annoys me since I haven't lived there since the end of 2013.

    So...what do you think? Who should pay?

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    I think your mum and your ex should go halves in it. It's her house, and she'll get the benefit of selling it, but he has had the benefit of not having to pay rent for all of this time.

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    ^^i agree. Seems fair to me. He got to live rent free, which is pretty bloody rare, and while she didn't follow their agreed vacate notice, he still did pretty well out of the deal.

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    I'm on FOB side with the details you gave. I don't think he should have to pay a bill that's in advance. He has been lucky to be rent free, but if she wanted some costs covered she should've asked for rent or asked him to leave. If he had been living there and she had been asking for rent and him not paying that's a different story. That's just with the info you gave though.

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    At best he should go halves as appreciation of living there rent free.
    In reality if he has been given the boot why would he pay for rates for the time he won't be living there. It doesn't make any sense.

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    Who usually pays the bills?

    Is it a quarterly rates bill or annual?

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveLivesHere View Post
    At best he should go halves as appreciation of living there rent free.
    In reality if he has been given the boot why would he pay for rates for the time he won't be living there. It doesn't make any sense.
    Yes, that's exactly it! It doesn't make sense. And she offered for him to live there, so I don't feel right about her using that against him now...

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    Who usually pays the bills?

    Is it a quarterly rates bill or annual?
    He and I have paid all the bills between us since 2009. He has always paid the rates on a quarterly basis, but mum's douchebag estate agent is trying to tell her she needs to pay them for the full year, no idea why.

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    You get rates back?????? When we bought our place it was 'supposed' to be paid so we did not have to.. (that is a saga - we had to pay because they didn't). ANYWAY - I do think split in half. If there is a refund back then that is split evenly.

    I know that 3 months notice was verbally given but I don't know what I am doing 3 months in advance!

    I think you should not dish out. Is this something they can deal with themselves without you having to be the mediator?

    Also, how is the new house?

    ETA. I read the OP again - so he isn't living there now? When did he leave?

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    To be honest if I had lived somewhere rent free since 2009 I wouldn't be quibbling about having to pay one bill.

    I think he's done very well tbh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    He and I have paid all the bills between us since 2009. He has always paid the rates on a quarterly basis, but mum's douchebag estate agent is trying to tell her she needs to pay them for the full year, no idea why.
    As he has always paid the rates, I think the least he could do is pay the rates bill for whatever time period he was living in the house in the billing period. Your mum should pay the balance.

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