Blossom74 Ah that is just so heartbreaking.
@Charlie74 you should read up on epigenetics. Essentially it is saying that the mother carrying the child determines which genes are turned on and which are turned off. This is why every child that is born looks different.
I have seen pics of lots of de children who I swear look like the mother it's uncanny.
I have a collage of photos on the wall in my hallway that has lots of my baby photos. I do have a pang every now and then when I think about this baby not looking like me. But then I think of the wonderful gift this lady has given me to be able to carry my baby, something I wouldn't have been able to do if we adopted. Every time I feel her kick I know I am blessed to be this baby's mother. Whether she looks like me is irrelevant, I will help shape her personality and her soul, I will hopefully steer her on the correct path to being a wonderfully kind and loving adult, to me that's all that matters.
@Tahli I feel your pain. Like someone else said I always thought of my embies as my babies when they were transferred and every af felt like a mc to me. I don't mean to diminish those emotions that others who have had chemicals and actual mc, but I never got a bfp, just bfn after bfn. I had so much hope at transfer, it felt like such a loss when af arrived😞
Because it WAS a loss @Chiefsgirl. It was the loss of the life your little one should have had, but didn't. It was the loss of the potential of what that little person could have done and achieved. It was the loss of your hope for that little baby to join you. All pain is the same love
We live by the stick law, love For some of us, the minute possibility that we could, maybe, potentially be pregnant at our age means that getting to the POAS stage is a damn miracle in itself.
We celebrate every stick, no matter how feint! We will stare at a stark white stick until we get line eye and see something. The stick brings with it hope, and sometimes the sight of a squinter is enough to give us hope on our own journey and the courage to move forward and try again (and again, and again, and again.)
Sounds pathetic I know, but that's how I see it anyway.
Long live the stick wh0res!
Bongley for witholding the stick will be added onto the whiteboard!!!😉😁😁😁
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