They're absolutely not used for research without anyone's written permission. Research isn't the main aim of IVF groups - it's money-making. If they get anyone pregnant, that's a bonus.
I don't think the field is evolving as quickly as other parts of medicine and that's what I find very frustrating. In the same period of time, HIV/AIDS has gone from being a life sentence to something almost curable. How far have we really come with ART?
And until women lobby for it, it's not going to change.