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    Quote Originally Posted by Charlie74 View Post
    Thanks girls for all ur well wishes about my little niece. I spoke to my sister this morning and she sounded great, we talked for an hour. However we have some worrying things happening with the baby. Her inflammation markers came back high and they are concerned she has meningitis. So at 1 day old the little angel had to have a lumber puncture. I'm sick just thinking about it... And now we're waiting for the results. Am praying to every god that ever existed that she will be ok.
    If any of you pray, I'll happily accept any prayers you want to offer up today! I think we're due some happy news in my family, I hope this will be it.

    @Charlie74, I am not a religious person by nature but with this IVF caper I am more and more hoping there is someone out there listening at the very least.

    Your sister and little niece will be in my thoughts love.


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    Thanks so much @Blossom74 you're not too blunt, it's absolutely fine and you're right, I don't want to get to 50 either and wish I'd done things differently. That's why I'm gearing myself up to do this whatever way I can, while working on sorting things out with DH. I know I've probably cast the poor guy in a really bad light here - but it is a huge issue and we will have to get help to sort it out and get to the bottom of why he is so resistant to talking about how we can afford DE.

    He sees everything as ours, honestly I used to say "your properties" and it really upset him, he talks of everything as "ours" but for whatever reason this is a real sticking point and there must be more to it than he is letting on - which is why I'm definitely taking him off to counseling. He hasn't dealt well with my grief, and I truly don't think he understands how deep this all runs for me, and how much it hurts that he will put up thousands for a custody battle that I'm supporting him fully with, yet he won't put any $$ up for IVF or DE.

    He is a really generous man in so many ways, and he really, really wants more children and he also wants me to be happy, so I'm not really getting it either. There must be more to it, so I guess it's time to uncover what that might be because he's a really good man and this isn't quite in character.

    In any case, I'm moving forward in one way or another.

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    Summer I wish things were easier for you (& us all) all round. I hope the counselling helps him see your point of view too. hugs

    Charlie, I'm sending good thoughts to your niece and sister.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Charlie74 View Post
    @Gagingi, I'm also so sorry about ur BFN. It's like blossom said, before you do this, I think we all naively think that IVF is the magic pill. It has been a rude awakening for me that there are soooo many obstacles even with IVF. I have absolutely no confidence in ever becoming pregnant. Infact I'm downright pessimistic. Do you think you know what u might do next?

    Thanks girls for all ur well wishes about my little niece. I spoke to my sister this morning and she sounded great, we talked for an hour. However we have some worrying things happening with the baby. Her inflammation markers came back high and they are concerned she has meningitis. So at 1 day old the little angel had to have a lumber puncture. I'm sick just thinking about it... And now we're waiting for the results. Am praying to every god that ever existed that she will be ok.
    If any of you pray, I'll happily accept any prayers you want to offer up today! I think we're due some happy news in my family, I hope this will be it.
    Oh no Luv!!! How bloody stressful for all concerned

    Am sending prayers to the Universe as I type!!!

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    @Charlie74 I can't imagine the stress your sister must be going through. Hope the little one gets better soon.
    @Summer that is such a tough situation, I can't believe he won't support you financially through this. It's your future! Not just yours but his too! I think he needs to sort out his priorities and push you higher up the list and finances down.

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    Gagingi . So so sorry love... it's just so unfair .. I have also faced it with my normal pgd embies not working. . Then one begins to wonder what else can we try... but thankfully u are in very good hands with Wazza who is willing to try new things gs with u n is so accessible and already has a plan chalked our for u... is he adding something new in your next cycle ? And did he give u any reasons as to a normal embi nor implanting ? Because it can't be quality as they are tested...

    Charlie 74 Congrats for becoming an aunty. .. and your little niece is in my prayers.. hoping all is well v soon xx

    Blossom74 .. I read about your new f's and the new plan .. it sounds v promising in the coming year..

    Tahli.. even I think it's better to find out the reasons first as there is a lot of money involved. .

    Summer was reading all your posts .. it's really tough handling all these issues along with this ttc journey. .. like all lovelies ..even I think sering a marriage counselor would help on this situation

    Blondeinbrisvegas thx love for asking abt me. .. I have decided I m not going g to poas this time as its equally stressful like waiting for the bt results... plus god knows pregnyl is out of my system or not.. will wait for Monday.

    Chiefsgirl thanks abt your post about LIT .. it was me who asked about it as LB and Wa both labeled it as too risky and no benefit .. so i got confused .. i was advised it may be of help as we have partial dq alpha match... let's see .. can you please tell r hoe the whole thing was ? Did u have any side effects etc ? Thx and hope your pregnancy is going well hun xx

    But honestly girls . I am not even 1 percent hopeful.. no symptoms etc.. plus a C grader not tested one.. I really think when the normal pgd ones have not implanted .. what can I expect from this one.... wr did intralipids this time .. but so many girls who did intralipids in this thread and other threads have still got bfn... so so.rtimrs I think .. does it really do any thing ??

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    Quote Originally Posted by Summer View Post
    Thanks so much @Blossom74 you're not too blunt, it's absolutely fine and you're right, I don't want to get to 50 either and wish I'd done things differently. That's why I'm gearing myself up to do this whatever way I can, while working on sorting things out with DH. I know I've probably cast the poor guy in a really bad light here - but it is a huge issue and we will have to get help to sort it out and get to the bottom of why he is so resistant to talking about how we can afford DE.

    He sees everything as ours, honestly I used to say "your properties" and it really upset him, he talks of everything as "ours" but for whatever reason this is a real sticking point and there must be more to it than he is letting on - which is why I'm definitely taking him off to counseling. He hasn't dealt well with my grief, and I truly don't think he understands how deep this all runs for me, and how much it hurts that he will put up thousands for a custody battle that I'm supporting him fully with, yet he won't put any $$ up for IVF or DE.

    He is a really generous man in so many ways, and he really, really wants more children and he also wants me to be happy, so I'm not really getting it either. There must be more to it, so I guess it's time to uncover what that might be because he's a really good man and this isn't quite in character.

    In any case, I'm moving forward in one way or another.

    You know my thoughts and feelings on this Luv I know your DH is a really good man but as you say..it's the money aspect of this that for some reason, he's baulking at??? I do believe there is more to it as you know and feel he's not being completely transparent with how he feels about this. Good call to go to Counselling to get to the bottom of it all before you start the DE ball rolling in full as you said it yourself in your previous post, his lack of financial contribution and commitment will cause resentment further down the track if the true reason behind it isn't disclosed and dealt with.

    He might pay you a wage from the business, but it's not like you do fruck all for the $ Luv!!!! Stop selling yourself short FFS's!!! Agree with @Blossom74 that getting your business up and running again will be a good thing

    I believe in financial autonomy in a relationship and support it though not in matters like this Luv when you both should be invested in every way, shape and form including monetary-wise IMO.

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    @Tahli I think you've made a very wise decision in waiting Luv as difficult and as frustrating as that is to do

    The peace of mind knowing that all is in order in your oven and with the immune stuff really is worth the sacrifice of having to push back your next transfer when I know all you want to do is get over there and get yourself Preggo!!

    And you will Luv....I truly believe that I think one day in the very near future you'll look back at this moment in time and realise you absolutely made the right decision without a shadow of a doubt

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sue77 View Post
    Gagingi . So so sorry love... it's just so unfair .. I have also faced it with my normal pgd embies not working. . Then one begins to wonder what else can we try... but thankfully u are in very good hands with Wazza who is willing to try new things gs with u n is so accessible and already has a plan chalked our for u... is he adding something new in your next cycle ? And did he give u any reasons as to a normal embi nor implanting ? Because it can't be quality as they are tested...

    Charlie 74 Congrats for becoming an aunty. .. and your little niece is in my prayers.. hoping all is well v soon xx

    Blossom74 .. I read about your new f's and the new plan .. it sounds v promising in the coming year..

    Tahli.. even I think it's better to find out the reasons first as there is a lot of money involved. .

    Summer was reading all your posts .. it's really tough handling all these issues along with this ttc journey. .. like all lovelies ..even I think sering a marriage counselor would help on this situation

    Blondeinbrisvegas thx love for asking abt me. .. I have decided I m not going g to poas this time as its equally stressful like waiting for the bt results... plus god knows pregnyl is out of my system or not.. will wait for Monday.

    Chiefsgirl thanks abt your post about LIT .. it was me who asked about it as LB and Wa both labeled it as too risky and no benefit .. so i got confused .. i was advised it may be of help as we have partial dq alpha match... let's see .. can you please tell r hoe the whole thing was ? Did u have any side effects etc ? Thx and hope your pregnancy is going well hun xx

    But honestly girls . I am not even 1 percent hopeful.. no symptoms etc.. plus a C grader not tested one.. I really think when the normal pgd ones have not implanted .. what can I expect from this one.... wr did intralipids this time .. but so many girls who did intralipids in this thread and other threads have still got bfn... so so.rtimrs I think .. does it really do any thing ??

    Ok Luv, I totally see where you're coming from

    I'm going to be hopeful for you and am everything, by the bucketful and praying up a storm for a BFFP on Monday!!!!

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    @Sue77 I have two dq matches with dh and 5 hla matches all up.

    Dh went in to dr m's office in the morn and they took about 5 vials of his blood.

    About lunchtime I went back and dr m injected the white blood cells into the inside of my arm near the elbow. I put emla cream on my arm about an hr before and wrapped in glad wrap. This numbs the site and the injections didn't hurt.

    ImageUploadedByThe Bub Hub1450519617.686278.jpg

    This is what it looked like that night.

    About a week or so later I got a reaction where it swelled up again and itched. It's supposed to do this and only lasted a night.

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    A month after the first injections we did it again. My reaction the next time was much less.

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    It's all about getting my body used to exposure to dab which is similar but slightly different to mine.
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